How to write it on an invitation?

Question

I want to make sure that my guest to my wedding only bring who i have invited. My family and guest arent use to the RSVP How do make them aware that if you dont return the RSVP card i wont be counting on there presence and if they return it i dont want any one else coming besides the people i have invited. How can i word this on the invite or howdo i tell them

Answer 1

Address the envelope to the specific people like"
Mr & Mrs John smith. Or John and Sally Smith

Or if you are allowing 1 guest do:

Mr John Apple and guest


Next just do the normal card with RSVP by __ date. And enclose a prestamped envelope with YOUR address on it already.

Make a check list of all your guests. Check off each name as people respond.
Then 1 month BEFORE the wedding call all the guests who have not responded and let them know that they have to decide that day whether they are coming or not because they did not send the card back. Ask: are you coming? I did not receive your RSVP card and envelope. Please call me back today (say day) if you are coming. If you do not call me back today I will assume you are not coming and you will not be on the guest list.

Especially OLD people may forget so be prepared to call some people.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, you could tell them until you're blue in the face that they need to respond, and you'll still get people who don't. Just put the RSVP by date on it, and after that date, call the stragglers and ask them. That's all you can really do. As for people bringing extra guests, people should understand that only the people listed on the invite ARE invited, but people will sometimes be rude and show up with others. (Their kids, etc.) There's really not a lot you can do about that, either, because you won't know until the day of the event that that's happening. Check the reply cards carefully, because sometimes, in the space provided that says "Mr. & Mrs. ___Will/Will Not Attend" They will fill in their kids names, too, or the other uninvited persons names. Then you can just call them up and say that you're sorry, but you have a limited amount of space at your reception, so only the people listed on the invite are to come. Just be prepared for some people to be incenced that their precious children aren't as important to you as they are to them, and you actually have the NERVE to not want the pleasure of their company at your wedding. How dare you. (Note the sarcasm.)

Answer 3

Dont put anything additional on the RSVP card, they wont read it or care it sounds like.

Be sure to have everyones phone number who you invite. When the RSVP date gets here pick up the phone and start calling "Hi Uncle John I am just calling to see if you and Aunt Jenny are coming to the wedding. If I dont hear back from you I am going to assume no. So please do call back if you plan on coming so that I can be sure you both have a seat and a meal at the reception."

Give them 2 calls, if you dont hear back dont include them. But be prepared, it doesnt matter what you do sometimes, people may just show.

Answer 4

If you haven't sent the invitation cards be sure you put a stamp on the RSVP envelope and then in small letters (on the invitation it's self) put RSVP, by **/**/****. A lot of times, if you give them a dead line they'll send it back fast. If you already sent out the invitations, call some heads of the family and put the word out and ask them to spread it around.

Answer 5

I would just give the RSVP date, keep track of who replied and two weeks before your wedding call the guests who have not responded. Also when you address the invites you are already putting who you are inviting on it. Like Mr and Mrs John Jacobson or Debbie jones and guest or Mr. Bob Jones. Those are specific and cant be misunderstood.

Even people ike me who forget would appreciate the reminder.

you do not put anywhere on the invite that they wont be allowed in if they dont RSVP.

Answer 6

some people are lazy make sure they are pre stamped also 3 weeks befor the date 1 week befor the rsvp date call people up an say i didnt recive your rsvp an wondering if i am adding you to the count thats what my sis did an it worked out good

Answer 7

Sadly, it may not matter much. We had people show up that didn't send back the RSVP and even some that we didn't even invite as others had told them it was ok to come. Thankfully, we had planned for such possibilities. Good luck!!

Answer 8

I wonder if individual rsvp cards would work if you wrote on them that they would also be their seating card.

Answer 9

BEFORE YOU SEND THE INVITES OUT ORDER YOU SOME PLACE CARDS FROM YOUR LOCAL PRINT SHOP AND GET "BY INVITATION ONLY" PRINTED ON THEM AND MAIL THEM OUT WITH THE INVITATIONS.THIS WAY YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE SPILL SEVERAL TIMES.