We dated for almost 2 years, and lived together. We still talk and he tells me that it is really hard and he is hurting...so much that he can't see me. He says that he needs time, and that we both just need time. As I agree some time apart and just for ourselves might do us good, but I would much rather fix our issues together. Help me get him back..he says he loves me and always will then why can't he just be with me right now? HELP!!! I love him more than anything, he is the one for me...I just want things to be ok again, but I am lost on how to do that.
2007-01-22 09:14:16 · 13 answers · asked by Lindsay U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yuck, isn't he just playing you for the fool! Keeping that door open, just in case he needs a booty call or a favor. Break free hon and move on. You can't just keep opening that wound hoping it will heal.
2007-01-22 09:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for bad news. John Lennon was wrong, you need more than love to get along. It is natural and ok to still be in love with somebody after you break up. That person is a major part of your life and always will be. However, you have to accept that you broke up for a reason, and if you got back together, it will not take long for you to see that there was a reason that you broke up in the first place.
The only thing you can do to try and get him back is to let him go. If you told him how you felt and he still hasn't come back, it is not meant to be. There are many other doors of opportunity that you probably don't see because you are still busy looking at the door he closed on you.
Ultimately I suggest you move on with your life, you will never forget about him or stop loving him, but you must move on
Good luck, its all easier sad than done, trust me I have been there and am there again.
2007-01-22 17:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Try To Be There For Him,And Show Him That You Respect His Mind,Choices,And Reasons For Saying That He Needs Time And Space,He May Just Be Confused Right Now.And Will Eventually Come Around,What's Important Is That You Be There For Him If You Truly Love Him Like You Say You Do.
2007-01-22 17:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by RaunchyGurl1976_The Real Aries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the reason for the time apart. It sounds like you may have done something that is driving him away. If it is a trust issue, then you might not get him back. At the same time, don't let him lead you on over an extended period of time. If it isn't fixed in a month, most likely never will be.
2007-01-22 17:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back you have to avoid being desperate. It's a turn off and is sure to make him more distant, at least subconsciously. Tell him how you feel, what you want with him, and leave the door open in the future. Then get on with your life, and don't call him or contact him. Let him contact you. He'll either come back or he won't but he may just need a couple weeks of seeing how life is without you to scare him into shape.
Trust me, guys don't want desperate chicks.
2007-01-22 17:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know, im going through the same thing. the only difference is that she lived 3hrs from me(we would still see each other but not so much) right now she's with somebody else and it hurts but i cant do anything about it. she said she needed time cause she was scared...and to be honest...i dont know what to do. all u and i can do is move on. and if it was meant to be, then they'll come back. which i hope so. cause i love her too much to let her go too.
good luck.
2007-01-22 17:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to open up with him..ask him to meet..or if that isn;t possible then tell him that they only way to get the pain out is by talking about it together...right now he is insecure and he's afraid to be hurt again...it's like sprinkling salt on a recent cut...that is why you have to be the one to take the step forward and let him know that together the both of you can resolve everything and that nothing is going to work if the two of you stay apart..love will find a way hun..just try that..you have nothing to lose only to gain good luck hun
2007-01-22 17:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tidus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lindsay, when two peole are deeply and passionately in love, nothing on God's green earth can keep them apart.....except for war. Something is not awash here. You need to step back and examine this relationship more closely. If he truly loves you and always will, why isn't he on your doorstep right now with his suitcases packed??
2007-01-22 17:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are obsticles that stop the relationship. Be less stressful, and try and remove these obsticles. Generally its not a good sign. Remember it takes the two of you to make it work. One sided participation is not enough.
2007-01-22 17:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he needs time and you need to respect that and give him the time he needs. On the other handt he may mean more to you than you do to him so you should prepare yourself for him not coming back. You have to understand that just because people love each other...it doesnt mean they should be together.
2007-01-22 17:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋