Why is it when I take my son out into public and he is acting up others treat me like crap, like I'm a bad mom?
I'm not, and I will NEVER be a bad mom.
My son has ADHD and SPD so he is always grabbing at stuff and miss behaving.
but other parents who have always had great well behaved children don't understand. Should I start explaining to everyone to try to change there way of thinking?
Because other parents with children that have ADHD or SPD understand that there children can not control there out bursts and the parents have a hard time calming them down.
but do you think it would be such a bad thing to put the other parents in there place and educate them a little on this HIDDEN DISABILITY when they say something mean or give me a bad look?
2007-01-22 08:57:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just ignore them. You know you are a good mom so don't worry about what they think. If they actually say something mean I would absolutely give them a remark back. Just something to make them feel stupid. If they are just giving looks I would just smile at them say hello and keep moving. It is really sad that other adults can be so rude to parents like the job isn't hard enough already.
I like the card idea but that probably wouldn't matter to some people. Some people are plain ignorant. I was in the airport last month and a little boy obviously had tourette's and was making outbursts. People were being so rude to the family and giving dirty looks; they just ignored it. I think that was very big of them because I would have probably gone off.
2007-01-22 09:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Roni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard. My son had ADHD and started meds when he was in kindergarten. He acted out as well except when he was on the medication. I took him off of the meds when he turned 12 because of how he acted when he was on it. It does get better. He is now 20 yrs old...off of meds and a wonderful person.
I did explain to people that looked at me like I was a monster that he had ADHD. Hang in there and enjoy them while they are young. Before you turn around twice they are all grown up and in college preparing for the next stage in their life.
2007-01-22 17:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked with a boy with really really bad ADHA. Taking him out to public was tough.. there is so much stimualtion... it looked like I wasn't doing my job very well.. and the people that thought I was his mom... thought I wasn't doing that very well. It was a good exercise for me to learn to laugh things off and have creative fun in the moment. I knew that if I stressed out or punished him becuase others put pressure on me, that is not fair. I did try to teach him social manners.. but it didn't always work. Don't worry... others will always critisize.. that just means they are judgmental and really says nothing about you or your son at all
2007-01-22 17:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was someone else on another question that had the idea to make little cards explaining her child's disability. Whenever she was in public and someone was rudely staring or made an inappropriate comment she handed them a card. I thought it was a great idea to educate someone on what you are going through - maybe they will be less judgemental in the future. Good luck to you!
2007-01-22 17:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Paige N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep your chin up. You are your child's best advocate. I would educate those who make nasty remarks. For those that give nasty looks just smile and wink at them. They usually don't have the balls to open their ignorant mouths.
I honestly have not had to deal with ADHD or SPD, so I really don't understand your struggles, but people need to mind their own business.
2007-01-22 17:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋