My father has terminal cancer and is is very bad shape now. It would be impossible for me to go see him before he died AND his funeral which might not be for a month or so. Lotsw of relatives are puring in now so he has plenty of support. But I was his first son. What should I do?
2007-01-22 08:56:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why is it impossible to go see him? Finances? School? Work? Those things shouldn't be excuses to not see him. You should rearrange your schedule to see him before he dies.
2007-01-22 09:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is your father is your father; do what he needs you to do. Nothing is "impossible".
My father also died from cancer. For months he found ways to talk me out of travelling home to see him, so I never did. When I finally saw him at his funeral, he didn't even look like my dad. It took me two years before I could really grieve for him. The whole experience was surreal.
Do whatever you need to do to be with your father; he deserves your best.
2007-01-22 17:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by MomBear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the right thing to do is, to go be with your father right now. Having relatives there, is not the same as having his first born son there. I'm sure it would make him very happy to see you there. Why is it impossible to go see him? I would drop everything, to be with my family when they need me.
2007-01-22 17:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Chihuahua Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get the time or the funds to be there for him NOW and when he passes on. If anything I would want to see him before he passed on so he would know I was there. Funeral attendance is nothing but a showing and trivial if you ask me. BUT I would try to be there for both scenarios.
2007-01-22 17:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you feel guilty about not be able to go and see him i think you should try something that i have doing myself because i can not go see my dad right now because he is also sick to i want to remember him the way he was before he got sick guilty is a terrible thing to keep building up so try what i skeet if you wish my prayers are with you
2007-01-22 21:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by mary m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only have one dad, If you dont go,latter down the road,you be kicking your self for not going,...you dont know what you lost ,till you lose your dad,..i my self have lost both,,,an then i nrver knew how much they realy ment to me, i had this thing,they be witm me always,now i a dad of,6 an i do all i can to show them the love,my dad show me,,,please do go,spend what little time you have with him,,an tell him how much you love him,
2007-01-23 05:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right thing to do is to go see him. its your father. but if you dont go and see him im sure he knows that you love him. all parents know.
2007-01-22 17:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you should do everything in your power to get there... i'm sure your employer would understand if its work stopping you... i think you will regret not seeing him before he goes... sorry for your loss... i know i dont understand but this is just my opinion.
2007-01-22 17:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋