Is it jealously or what?

Question

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up in November, she had gotten back with an ex and I tried staying single for awhile. We continued to talk and stay close after we broke up because it wasn't on harsh terms, we want to remain close friends. I still have feelings for her, but I know that right now we can't be together. I've started seeing this new girl, and my ex found out about it. Now, everytime we talk she interrogates me about what we've done physically and whether or not we are doing well and how it's ridiculous for me to be in a relationship when I'm moving to go to college in a few months. I just don't understand why she can't just be happy for me, it seems as if she wants me on the back burner for when I move to college (which is the same University she attends) so we can be together and not have to deal with long distance like we've previously had to. I just need someone's opinion, is she this way because she's jealous? Do you think she still has feelings? Is she sad I'm moving on?

Answer 1

Yes, it's a kind of jealousy. She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you either. She wants you to pine after her. It feeds her ego.

Answer 2

To me, it sounds like the majority of her actions are sprung from jealousy. I've seen so many other girls pull this, "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you." It seems that she may have feelings for you still, but chances are that she only thinks she does or acts like she does because you now have someone else in your life. And the questions? She is afraid that this girl could be her 'replacement', so to speak. She is trying to determine if this girl has a chance to have what she had with you. And I think you have the right idea with the back burner thing. It's a good possibility that she doesn't see her current relationship working out and likes knowing that you can be her fall back guy. But, if you have a new girl, she knows it won't be that easy. I think that she seems not happy for you because she's really not happy for herself. Her plans fell through. She knows that you are coming to college soon, and she was probably counting on you 'waiting around' for her until then. The best advice I can give you is that if you really like this new girl, then stick with it. Don't let the ex pull you out of what you have, or you'll give her the idea that she can always do that to you, and chances are that she will. Show her that your relationship status does not revolve around her. From the sound of it, she was perfectly fine with you when you were single, so it's not that she's dying to have you back. She just wants to feel that you will only be happy back with her, but I don't think she would be in any hurry to come back if you were single again. I think you would be that 'close friend' that you were before you began dating again.

Answer 3

Yeah It Definitely Does Sound Like She Is Jealous,And That She Does Still Have Feelings For You And Wanted To Just Keep You Waiting In The Wings For Her,And Her Only.Which Is Definitely Not Fair To You.Because You Deserve To Be Happy To,And Not Only When You Are With Her,But With Anyone That You End Up With.

Answer 4

She is sooo jealous!

You are so much more attractive now that someone else wants you! She needs to have that control over you. The whole reason you two have remained "close friends" is because it was her plan to get back with you on her terms all along. It'll be harder for you to resist her when you're in the same city, so decide what you want to do now! Have a heart to heart with her, if she is a friend she'll respect whatever you want to do.

BEWARE!!!
If you give in too easily, she'll try and control you forever!

Answer 5

Be careful of her man. I had a really good freind who was totally hung up on this girl and she dumped him and started dating someone else but she always stayed just enough in his life to keep him on the back burner. And if she was lonely or unsure of the relationship she was in she would call him up and start talking like they might get back together. She never got back with him and now its to the point where they arent even freinds. If you were supportive of her dating you should tell her taht she needs to do the same for you or risk loosing your freindship.

Answer 6

This girl and I broke up. She started seeing someone else. When I started seeing someone she appeared to be jealous. The reality is they would rather see you alone and unhappy. Even though she may no longer want you. I wish I had an explanation for it. It happens to alot of guys. Sad but true.

Answer 7

I think she probably hasn't let go of the relationship you and her had shared. And with the new girl, she's thinking that she won't be able to get back with you. So I'm guessing she is jealous and wants you back. But even if she is, what are you going to do? Get back with her or tell her to move on?
good luck

Answer 8

absolutely yes yes yes. its not the exact same thing, but i am married and i still talk to my ex fiancee, and he has told me that he still has feelings for me, but he never asks me about my sexual relationship with my hubby. she is absolutely jealous. and as far as the getting back together dont leave the girl you are seeing now. and you should tell the ex that you dont appreciate her asking you about your relationship with the new girl. and if she continues and you wanna make it work with the new girl then youll have to take initiative and tell the ex that you cant talk to her anymore. that is what i would do.

Answer 9

I think deep down she has feelings for you, so its probably a bit of jealousy and she hates to think that you are moving on with someone else.
Do you think that maybe you will get back together, was she special to you?

Answer 10

she definitley wants you back.in my opinion i think you should just stay in the relationship your in.shes not being a good sport about it because obviously she isn't happy for you.but if she does express how she truely feels maybe you two will have something in the future.but until then just keep doing your thing:)