I keep reading questions on here about "guys" wanting to know how to ask a girl out....wth is so hard about it? why do you guys seem to have such a hard time with it?
2007-01-22 08:48:46 · 7 answers · asked by Lauren_Ann20 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The basic problem is lack of self confidence. Another aspect is lack of insight into the girls mind. If all the guys knew the girls were just as desperate for affection and a relationship as they are, they wouldn't make it as hard as it is. Just talk to her. Find out what she likes. Mostly, show her you care about her personally as a person and a woman. Every man grows up and says to himself 'if I only knew then what I know now!'...skip yourself ahead a few years and say to yourself, I don't know, but she probably doesn't either- let's find out together.
That said- it isn't hard. Its scary! It could very well mean changing your whole life one day for that person. Girls are just as scared as you are, guys, but you are supposed to be the brave ones. So, suck it up and ask her out! To make it easier, I suggest going out first with a group of friends together, then pairing off if you find you really CAN stand to be around her without tearing your hair out after that.
2007-01-22 09:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by SHAWNPX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because girls regularly use the "rules" of social engagement against guys. Generally speaking, guys are not as socially adept as girls. Especially in high school and junior high, a girl will know exactly when and where and how it is appropriate to ask a certain kind of question, and guys simply won't. The problem is, girls use this knowledge as a weapon. Honestly, I'm still a little unclear on which fork is used for what, and I had a couple of girlfriends who would make fun of me for it when I was dating. Then there's the fact that girls travel in packs. If you ask a girl out in front of her friends, is that rude? I was never really clear on that. What about if you ask her to step asside so you can ask her out? Write her a note? Blare it over the loud speaker? Challenge her to a game of strip-poker and then when her friends look like they feel left out make sure they all know they're invited too? What?!
Despite what everyone says, girls are not better communicators than men. Communication is when the thoughts in my mind become known to the person I want them to. The girls in my life have missunderstandings between each other on average twelve times a week per girl. The guys average closer to three or four. Guys are more direct. Direct is good! "Hey, what's up? What you doing tonight? Want to hang out?" Awesome! I know exactly how to respond to each question. But will that work with a high school girl? Hell no! I can hear the rumors now! "Did you hear that Sean asked *her* if she wants to hang out? As if! He should know you need to blink twice first!"
And women (in general) go out of their way to make sure that they can make your rejection as public and humiliating as possible. They hang out in groups, and make sure you know it's not kosher to ask them to step asside. They start laughing as soon as the question leaves your lips, and "think about it" for a while. What the Hell?! What did I ever do to deserve to be treated like that?
2007-01-22 17:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rejection sucks! for anyone! Play a little role reversal the next time you see a very attractive man you like and ask him out? You'll probably be more successful than most guys asking girls out cause guys are not as picky as girls.
2007-01-22 17:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by T.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimidation and fear of rejection. We have it in our minds that women have high standards and we always fear we will not live upto them. Plain and simple it takes more to impress a woman than it does for you to win us men over!
2007-01-22 16:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some guys really like the girl and they don't want to loose her
2007-01-22 16:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they worry about awkward or humiliating rejections.
2007-01-22 16:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's the ''fear'' of being turned down.we don't like that,AT ALL.
2007-01-22 16:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋