take into consideration that I am only 15..ok,there is this guy I know very well(he is a family friend)we have know him for years.....well he make's me uncomfortable somtimes (he touches me in places which I don't think he should) now I am wondering what I should do about that I havn't said anything to him.....and I think it may just be an accident(like he slips or somthing) I like him a lot ( as a friend) and I talk to him alot(even important things) and he has said to me once that he wouldn't ever hurt me(I have no idea why he said it) but what do you think I should do?
2007-01-22 08:32:01 · 19 answers · asked by katey 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes he is alot older that me (40) and he is the police
2007-01-22 08:39:49 · update #1
I think you should first tell your parents and then tell the police. I recently found out that my ex fiance of almost five years was doing that (and more) to my little sister (it started when she was 14), and we have filed a police report, and contacted an attorney. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable like that, and you do not have to put up with it. It's not ok, and you haven't done anything wrong. You really need to tell someone, and even then, you are doing the right thing. I don't care how nice he is to you, it's not right. Don't sit back and take it.... we need to get control of these people who think it's ok, and they'll keep thinking it's ok if we don't punish them!
Good luck to you, and just remember that he's wrong, and it's inappropriate to make you feel that way.
2007-01-22 08:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by shay223 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooh, btw ignore blonde bastard or whatever shes called.
she only said it coz shes a whore and thinks everyone should enjoy this kindof attention.
if yo dont wanna tell your parents, then if you are like in a room with him and your family and he does it again, make a REALY big deal out of it, liike 'what did you do that for' or say 'ouch' or something.
that way, he might get embarrassed or back off.
ooor, tell him that your lesbian
or something
or what ever that thing is, autosexual, like where you only love yourself!
well thats what id do
well on i wouldnt
id run as fast as i can and hide behind a lamp post, or under a parked car
but i suppose some people might think thats dangerous!
and blonde FAAAAG, or w/e, go fall in a hole and die, your not wanted here!
ha!
xxx
2007-01-22 16:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am 24 yeas old. I was raped as a kid, and molested as a teen. I believe that the best thing you can do is trust your parents don't trust anybody you think is doing the wrong thing. If you feel uncomfortable with what this person is doing talk to your mom and dad tell them everything don't hold back. I hope you do something about it before it gets too late. or goes too far. My best wishes and hopes to you.
2007-01-22 17:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Carmen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a predator. He 'accidental' touched you in an uncomfortable place?? It was no accident,hun. He's waiting for another time to grope you. If you feel uncomfortable around him,he needs to stay away. Tell your parents, and find someone else to talk to.
2007-01-22 16:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by wildbill05733 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not good. I doubt his touches are slips, or accidents. You need to stay away from him, and tell your mother or a trusted teacher, counselor, an adult who you trust that can help with this. You can end up in a situation that will harm you emotionally for life.
2007-01-22 16:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Joy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he a lot older then you..... well 1st tell him to stop because you are very uncomfortable. if that don't work then tell your parents and school councilor. Then also you may need the police involved because it may lead into something you do not want. that's not right. if he is doing this to you then he may be doing this to other females your age.
2007-01-22 16:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by dan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell somebody.
even the people you know the most
can be the ones that hurt you. he might
just be saying that he'll never hurt you to get
you trapped in his little games. be careful and watch out for this one. maybe ask him about it before you tell someone else incase it is just an accident or something but just watch yourself.
2007-01-22 16:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely need to speak to an adult you trust. things may escalate into a very serious situation.. you shouldnt feel bad or guilty for feeling like something is wrong. be open and honest with the adult you trust and let them know before things get worse. good luck honey and be strong
2007-01-22 16:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly - your're not stupid or a loser.
I suggest that you tell your parents. They are the best people to help you. No-one has the right to touch where you don't want them to. How old is this guy?
Good luck :-)
2007-01-22 16:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Prawnsize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to your mother or father about this..... if he's touching you in inappropriate places. If you don't talk to them, then ask him not to touch you, because it makes you uncomfortable. It sounds like he is saying he would never hurt you to gain your trust. Do not trust him. If he could be trusted, then he wouldn't accidentally touch you, it would be mutual.
2007-01-22 16:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋