Help, I'm desprate. My oldest son will be getting married in April and honestly, I'm not the most formal person in the world. Any resources or experiences that anyone has had to help let me know. Most needed answers, what am I supposed to pay for, what is the proper attire, considering the bride's choice of colors, etc..
By the way his dad and I are divorced and no help financially from his father.
2007-01-22 08:30:53 · 10 answers · asked by smalls_1011 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The Groom pays for the bride's bouquet and the groom's tux. He also pays for the honeymoon. That's pretty much it, unless you choose (and it's optional) to pay for the groomsmen's tuxes. As far as what you wear, it depends on how formal she wants the wedding. You may choose to ask to shop with the Mother of the Bride and get to know her better, then you can have a similar dress. Most likely the bride will want both mom's in the same color, but you'd have to ask her what she wants. Some weddings are less formal and the groomsmen may wear suits instead of tuxes. In that case, you could get away with a nice sunday dress, but otherwise, I'd choose a conservative evening gown, fitting of a mother. And remember you are by no means required to pay for anything. This is your choice, and a great one at that. Your son will understand that and appreciate your generocity as opposed to that of his father.
2007-01-22 09:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
In these modern times where both the man and woman hold jobs and are earning incomes together, there are no set rules anymore as to who pays for what. You can ask the in-laws and see what they are paying for first and then you and your spouse agree to what still needs to be paid for. I am sure you and them have a budget in mind.
As for your mother fo the groom gown, you want to look good too as you will play an important role in the wedding. The bride chooses her wedding colors and then the bride's mother, her dress through those color choices. You will then confer with her over her choice of a dress...be it long, short, tea-length, very formal, semi-formal, color/s etc. You will then complement her choice through the style and color. So the wedding etiquette is, truly, everyone communicates, share expenses, get along, and have a good old time!
2007-01-22 13:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mei Lin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times the grooms parents name ends up on the invite because if you are sending an invite to a relative or family friend of the groom, they know who it's for. Yes, some people are invited to weddings without remembering or knowing the bride or groom because they're distant relatives or friends of the parents. But otherwise, if you don't want to list them, that's perfectly fine and your choice. And the way you have listed, would be correct- minus the blah blah blah. Congrats!
2016-03-28 21:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is this: don't get too wrapped up in etiquite. My husband and I got married this Septembr, and his mother had many similar questions. The problem was, my parents werent the etiquite types. I think that technically, the groom's parents are supposed to host the rehearsal dinner, pay for tuxes, and help with the honeymoon...but most people don't follow those rules anymore.
I would say that unless her parents are "following the rules" and paying for the whole wedding, you should ask your son and his fiance how you can help--and define a budget. For example, say "I can contribute $1,000 -- maybe I can pay for the cake?".
Most of all, have fun and remember it's THEIR big day :)
2007-01-22 12:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by gwensize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is always on a site called Weddingbells.com, I do believe the name of it is. On there many woman share a lot of experiences and suggestions etc. I wish I could be more helpful with informing you of the proper etiquette but I do believe that you would find what you were looking for on this site. Best of luck and I hope it's a fantastic wedding for you, your son and soon to be daughter in law.
2007-01-22 08:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You host the rehersal dinner and sometimes the grooms parents offer to pay for one thing, like the flowers or bar, but thats not absoluetly your duty, just a nice thing to do.
As for your dress, the mother of the bride chooses her dress first then you work off that, if she gets long, you also get long, if she gets a suit you also get a suit. But she chooses first. I would also recommend asking your furture DIL what color she would like to see you in and take that into consideration when you shop.
2007-01-22 09:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Groom's parents are traditionally supposed to pay for at least the rehearsal dinner and the bar bill. If you are unsure what to wear David's Bridal or any Bridal Shop has selections for mothers.
2007-01-22 08:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Erin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son and his bride to be. See what they are expecting from you. The rehearsal dinner is your responsibility (if you want to be traditional) and they would probably be very appreciative. You will also have to participate in the unity candle ceremony (if there is one). Otherwise, just be generally supportive of BOTH of them.
2007-01-22 08:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the groom's and bride's mother coordinate colors and outfits that match the bride's color choice.
2007-01-22 08:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your responsibility is the rehearsal dinner
2007-01-22 08:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋