Not been on date for 7 yrs help?

Question

Ive been separated for about 6 mths and was fine on myown now this woman has come along and rocked my boat, knocked me off my feet etc, lol, im fine with the talking part over the phone and texting etc, we have met up briefly and i felt like a nervous wreck, now its a full proper date on friday ive booked a lovely meal etc but feel im gonna screw it up, dont quite know what im asking for, just how to make the night go ok

Answer 1

Let her now that you're nervous and apologize if you seem clumsy during your date. It might be a bit embarrassing to tell her that, but its better then doing something super embarrassing and not being able to explain later.

Answer 2

If you can make her laugh its all cool but nothing works better for a mans self confidence that knowing you have taken her to the right place. Ask a female friend for some advice on where to take her for a drink and then dinner. If you already have the place booked and its cool then just relax... have a glass of wine. About halfway through the meal suggest a film or a show you want to see later in the week.... the worsed thing about a date is not knowing how to get the next one, if you leave it to the last minute you might chicken out and forget to ask.

Some tips. These are not cynical, its all about having the confidence to let her know you care which you clearly do:

Tell her she looks great in that dress/top. Notice details like earings and hair
Pay for the meal but let her pay half if she insists twice
Don't get drunk
Kiss her goodbye even if its just on the cheek
Offer to accompany her to her transport, if its bus go to the bus stop, if its train take her to the station. If she wants to take you with her she will tell you.

Have fun!

Answer 3

Poor you! I know exactly what you are going through coz i had a date last week, after 3 years of being single and not having a date. Believe me, when you meet u will b nervous, but maybe text her beforehand and explain this to her. If she is the right woman for you, she will understand and put you at ease. Good luck mate, have a great time, and try to relax.xx

Answer 4

Plumber I was in your shoes about 3 years ago when I went on my first date in a number of years also. It was a tough go but all worked out right and we are now set to marry in May. But that has nothing to do with your question I'm sorry for wondering. In my opinion be yourself and listen to what she has to say about her life and show an interest. Also give her examples of what you like in life and if you have children talk about them also. On our first date we discussed family, past loves and life experiences etc. Again though it is most important that you be yourself. Besides if you do end up screwing up a bit she will probably think it is cute. Best of luck to you on this date and I hope that you both hit it off and continue to see one and other.

Answer 5

take it easy she will be as nervous as you are, explain you are nervous get the boob outta the road as early as poss if u get what i mean if your nervous about making a mistake then do it early have a laugh about it then both of u can move on relax and enjoy the of the date, dont try to hard she will see its not the real you try something fun for a first date like ten pin boiling or paint balling instead of a full on romantic dinner you can do that when you can both be comfortable with each other hope i havent pickled your head with all that info lol, enjoy yourself

Answer 6

Remember just play it cool. When ever I'm in a very stressful situation I just remember that in 1 hour I'll be back home in my fluffy socks and petting my kitty. That way I have something in my head that is relaxing and it takes the edge off. Or you could have a shot of liqueur and call it good, that would definitely take the edge off. Be friendly and don't talk about your ex, remember you are separated so I'm taking that as not divorced?

Answer 7

Be yourself and don't kiss her as s.
Make her laugh and keep the conversation light. Light means no family, politics, jobs....anything that may be a downer. Anywhere you go, just pretend that's the place to be. Don't be undecided about anything. You pick where to eat, dance, hang out, whatever, just call the shots and wear the pants. Take your car over hers. Play the music you like. Remember if all else fails.....play side two of Led Zepplin 4. :o)

Answer 8

Ok... you are going out for a lovely meal with a lovely lady... right? ! Just remember that and don't put any OTHER pressure on your self... if you get my drift... enjoy the food and the company... don't rabbit on and on about the ex.... or how many children you have or want... keep things calm and relaxed, chill! You do NOT want to come over as desperate and needy or too jittery.... enjoy her conversation and try to get to know her... compliment her, listen to her and I mean pay attention to what she says to you.... and who knows...!!!! You may get a second date and they can be EVEN more scary!!!! who would be a teenager again.... (yes please!!) good luck!!!

Answer 9

be yourself hunny. obviously you must have done something right for her to have given you her #, for her to text you (as tedious as it is) & for you two to actually meet up whether it be brief or not. be who you were when you met, dont change yourself thinking that it might be something she wants..
be sure to tell her she looks lovely. look her in the eye. listen to her words as if youve never heard anything else before.
you seem like a guy who is anxious to please.. which is a good thing but can be bad. & be optimistic & sure of yourself. ladies can smell fear on a man you know. ;)
just be yourself (the guy that made her call & text & see you to begin with) & all should be okay.

Answer 10

are you for real man? if you like each other youll be alright if she leaves half way thru take another girl out next week tell you what though seriously if you can do something stupid like drop food down yourself or something like that but laugh about it make fun of yourself etc allways works pal humour will prevail you can laugh about it on the next date

easiest thing to do tho is let her talk nod your head agree with her say things like yeah your so right... thats true ... i never knew that... thats cool all women are the same its easy