I am thinking that I should probably not serve any alcohol at my reception because I and many of my guests have not reached the age of twenty-one. I don't want to open myself, my fiance, or my family up for a lawsuit. Would this be a disapointment to any of you?
2007-01-22 08:24:00 · 19 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm thinking of the exact same thing for my reception. Instead of alcohol I'm planning to use sparkling cider or something to its effect for the toast. My family is known to be heavy drinkers, and I'd be much happier without that atmosphere at my wedding. I don't want anyone to be drunk on my day! It's definetly acceptable to have no alcohol..it's your day, so you have the right to have or not have whatever you want!
2007-01-23 19:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've actually never been to a wedding with alcohol, my wedding will have an open bar, it's the first for either family invovled actually. So no alcohol is no big deal. However, if you have a bar at the venue they are very careful of the age thing. I was even told that if I planned to drink I need an ID as well. I noticed people were mentioning a cash bar. I'd personally avoid this. Alot of places offer this option; however, if you don't meet a minium amount you still have to pay, if they drinks were served or not. Plus alot of guest may opt to not drink if it's a cash bar.
2007-01-22 08:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always serve alcohol but tell the bartenders (or whoever will be serving it) that many of your guests are under 21 and to card anyone who appears to be underage. I know personally I've been carded at weddings (and I'm over 21), even as a member of the bridal party! Most bartenders will card anyone who looks younger than 21 any way.
2007-01-22 09:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a smart young woman. My daughter just got married. Although they are of drinking age, they chose to have an alcohol free wedding reception. Instead, after the dinner we had a coffee and dessert bar. What a hit! All the guests LOVED it.
2007-01-23 10:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only a matter of opening yourselves up for a lawsuit, have alcohol. It's up to the hall/bar/servers to not serve anyone underage, not up to you to make sure they don't.
If it's for personal reasons, don't worry about it. If you don't want alcohol at your wedding, don't have alcohol. Just don't use a cop-out excuse. People will see right through it and THEN be offended. If you just say "I would prefer a dry wedding so that everyone can enjoy/remember the day" who's going to argue?
2007-01-22 08:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 years old and getting married in April, and either way we do not drink. We have decided to not have alcohol at our wedding, but we are going to make an announcement that if anyone would like to order a glass of wine, they can do so at the bar (if you have one available)... I also think the Martinelli's suggestion is a good one, we are going to serve Martinelli's sparkling apple cider as our toasting drink. I dont think anyone will be too disappointed, it's YOUR wedding, remember that. Hope this helps, and congrats!
2007-01-22 08:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by DanielleJane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and lots of your guests are under 21, I wouldn't be expecting alcohol there. By the way, I was 23 when I got married and I didn't have alcohol at my reception. It's not a requirement. :)
2007-01-22 08:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's at a normal commercial venue, you can have it so there's a cash bar run by the facility. It's up to them to filter-out the under-aged, and people buy their own drinks. This is quite common in my experience, and I think it works out just fine. You can serve a non-alcoholic sparkling beverage for the toast.
2007-01-22 08:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by mattzcoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any alcohol at my wedding even though I was 21. I just don't drink really, and I didn't feel like I wanted alcohol there. No one will mind. I had sparkling cider for the toast. Honestly, it will save you a ton of money not to have alcohol there. It's quite expensive.
2007-01-22 10:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also chose not to serve alcohol. My way of handling this and to not have to answer any questions about whether or not there would be alcohol served was to have our receiption at the church following the ceremony. You cannot serve alcohol at a church so that took care of that problem. I decided I would be embarressed if one of my family members or friends made a fool of themselves in front of my grandparents or my pastor or friends from church. This solved the problem.
2007-01-22 09:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋