i just lost my dog of 13 years and it was the hardest thing ever. i've had her since i was 3 and she was the best dog ever, by the way she was a lab boxer.
every night before i go to bed i go out side to were we buired her and i say good night. i did this every day when she was around, by the way she died of cancer.
2007-01-22 08:01:31 · 26 answers · asked by *ballin* 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I am still in love with my childhood dog, that I got when I was 3 years old. the memories are sweet, and I won't ever forget him. I know he is waiting for me, and I will see him again. His spirit of love is forever alive, and it comforts me.
He is a Springer Spaniel. I used to sit on the porch and stroke his soft neck, and tell him all of my problems.. He was the only one who always had time to listen and understand.
2007-01-22 08:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DON'T!!
Never forget the great memories you have had with your dog! Childhood dogs are the best type, and she will always be near and dear to your heart. The best way to cope is to REMEMBER.
I lost a dog not too long ago, she was a rescue. She lived to be about 13 or 14 years old, but we were not sure of her age. We adopted her when she was about 8 or 9. She was the most loving dog, and she had such a kind heart. We just remembered the good times we had with her.
I wrote this poem to help you feel better...
The pain may never go away
The crying, it may stain
But if you forever remember
Her life won't be in vain
The memories, please don't forget
They are special, each one
Just remember all the good times
All the laughing, all the fun
Whatever you do, don't forget about her
And please don't remember the bad
Because then when you do think of her
It will only make you sad
So remember her in life
And have no fear in death
Because you will see her again some day
When you breathe your final breath.
2007-01-22 08:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by cadowney1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really feel sorry about your loss. It is never easy to lose a pet, even for a few days.
It is the harshest reality of our life here on this planet, that every thing alive will die.
There is no escaping it, and if you think about it, you might not want to escape it. It would be even more tragic to be ill, in pain, and NOT be able to find any relief-ever.
The real task is to live well and enjoy the trip. Make beautiful memories, help people and animals, make as little mess of the planet as you can, and dare to be happy and passionate about your life.
Know that you took good care of her, and gave her the best possible life. She taught you how to love, and that is the best thing she could have done with her life. We should all be so lucky!
I would like to suggest reading a book about grief. It will help you to find out you are not alone, or are your feelings weird. There are even books about grieving over pets. This is not unusual or weird. Love and loss are all parts of allowing anyone or anything into your heart.
You go right ahead and visit with her every night. It will help you to grieve and eventually to move on. Don't stop until YOU feel like it.
You will never forget her, nor would you want to. You will grow and change, and eventually you may want a new puppy in your life. It is not a betrayal, but an honor to your old pet, that you dare to love again. She gave you so much and it is what she would want for you.
Wait a while, be patient with yourself, and go through this. It will make you a kinder, stronger person. Good luck.
2007-01-22 08:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I just want to tell you how sorry I am. I have four dogs, and the oldest I've had for about ten years. I can see him aging and it hurts me so much to think that I will soon not have him. I know that you will never forget about her, and it will still hurt, I would think it was like losing a best friend. Be grate-full for all those years you had with her, and remember all those good memories you had. I bet there were lots! Just know she is no longer in pain, and believe me or not, but I have to believe in doggy heaven! Otherwise I just don't know how I am going to handle losing my own. Keep visiting her every night, and never forget about her.
2007-01-22 08:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry! I lost the dog i grew up with when i was your age (he was 14 and i'd had him since i was 3). that was nine years ago, and believe me, you never forget them. it will be hard to move on, but try to remember that she had a great, long life with you. try to spend time with your friends, talk about how you are feeling and do things you enjoy to take your mind off being sad. visit her grave if it helps and talk to her. i bet she's listening! i still have a framed picture of my Benji right where i can see it in my house. i have my own dog now, and when the times comes, you will get a new dog and love it too. you never forget the first one though, so don't worry about that. it will get easier with time, remember all the good times you had with her and hang in there! there are books and website out there about losing a pet, maybe check one out and find some people to talk to who are going through the same thing. best wishes.
2007-01-22 08:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years ago [this summer] I lost my beloved 'Romeo' my Himalayan kitty who had been with me for almost 10 years. It was so sudden [renal failure] that it knocked me off my feet. I live alone and he was my 'roomie'; my greeter in the evening; and a source for unconditional love and appreciation.
As it turned out he died one week before I was already scheduled to go on vacation [I almost didn't go] - but being away from home for that period helped a lot as I didn't have to come home to an empty house.
When I returned I did discover that habits die hard and I'd get up in the morning and go straight to the kitchen to feed him, then catch myself.
It was hard! However, the shelter where I had originally adopted him called me and convinced me [about 4 months later] to adopt another. I did and 'Tony' , my Maine Coon playful boy joined my household.
I will NEVER forget Romeo and often feel Tony is 'channeling' Romeo at times. [don't laugh]
2007-01-22 08:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Please don't try to forget her - she was a huge part of your life for 13 wonderful years. Instead of trying to forget about her & move on, you can help to reduce the pain by celebrating her life, the fun times you had together, and all of the things about her that made her special and unique to you.
If your family is open to it, you could have a 'wake' for her - get a notebook, and set aside some time to spend together sharing each family member's memories about her. Write down your thoughts, and the thoughts of your family members, in the notebook. You can use those thoughts, along with some photos, to make up a memory scrapbook or shadow box to honor her memory.
Taking the time to specifically remember all of the good times you shared together will help to dull the pain of her loss. It's perfectly OK to be sad about losing her, she was a huge part of your life! But it will help to take comfort in remembering the many joys she brought to your life.
2007-01-22 08:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bess2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. Loosing a dog, that you've had for so long, and has become a member of the family, is never easy and very heartbreaking. You will never forget her, I promise you, but you will just learn to go on without her. Have you thought about, maybe getting yourself another little puppy to love, and who will love you back. It won't be replacing your dog, but you will only be giving your love, to another animal that needs it. I think it's really nice that you go out evey night to say goodnight to her. Think about a new puppy. When your heart tells you, that you are ready, you will know it.
2007-01-22 08:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss. There is no easy way to get over it because she was such an important part of your life. It's always especially difficult when the pet you lose is your first one or one with whom you've grown up.
I have a picture of my first dog in my home office and I often still say "good morning" to her when I begin my work day. The pain of loss will subside, but if you loved her you will never forget her.
Think of it this way. Our pets teach us so much...through them we learn responsibility for another life; we learn about companionship; we learn to give and receive unconditional love. Finally, we learn to grieve and how to go on. Though it may take time, that too will be her gift to you.
2007-01-22 08:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by a_man_could_stand 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I've been through this a couple times and it is always very hard. You can take comfort in knowing that you loved her very much and she had a good life with you.
You'll grieve for her just like she was a person. It takes time and at some point it won't hurt so bad. Don't worry, you'll never forget her.
2007-01-22 08:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋