I recently spoke to my ex on the phone or rather argued with him,he left me and our son 3 weeks ago,we had been together 6 years and this is the 2nd time he`d left,we had only been back together 5 months.
Anyway he basically told me he wants me to move on and meet someone else,i asked him if he has and of course he said no but he has been seen with a girl,i think he is afraid to admit because i will go a bit nuts.
So what does this mean,does he mean it when he says he wants me to meet some1 new?Do you think it`s because he alredy has and it will make him feel less guilty or something?
2007-01-22 07:57:45 · 44 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that is part of it, he want you to find someone because he already has and doesnt wat to feel guilty... but girl you deserve to move on as well, you said this is the secound time, come on if someone wonts to be with you, they will be with you. You hang in there and you will be blessed with that special person who loves and care for you as much as you do for them.
2007-01-22 08:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by I keep them J's on my feet!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter if he found someone else or not. He wasn't man enough to take care of his family so I think this guys worthless. He says he wants you to find someone else so he doesn't have to worry about you begging him back all the time. You can certainly do better than this. Do what's right for your child. Be a good mother and give him the safe, loving, respectable and caring environment he deserves. Go on with your life and don't look back. It's just the two of you now, so make the best of it. Make sure and don't talk bad about your son's father while he's growing up. When he gets older he'll know who was there for him and who wasn't. You won't have to say a thing. Hold your head up and make the best out of your life. Good Luck and keep the faith.
2007-01-22 08:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he means it. Think about the last 5 months, I bet you have been walking on egg shells around him making sure you didn't upset him. I am sure that a part of you is relived - it will take time, and you will met some one else who will love you both. Your son will bring you constant joy, make sure you do not use him as a weapon to punish your ex partner - he needs his Dad too! Maybe he has someone new, maybe not but either way its over. Things would never be the same with you as a couple even if you got back together - it would always be a worry will we break up!
2007-01-22 08:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's on a power trip and acting like an immature wuss at the same time. He can't handle being around someone he's done wrong by. There is no reason for you to move. Ignore his request. Let your boys play baseball, and if your ex (or his boy) give you or your kids problems, let the coaches know. Same goes for school- if you or your boys experience problems, let the teachers and principal know.
2016-05-23 22:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children together, you will always be involved in the raising of the child. It must hurt a lot. You should check into some of the affordable counseling available through your county to help you get over a very painful time. You need to be strong for you child and yourself. Love yourself and keep your diginity, work on the basics of your day to day life and take care of both you and your son. Do not rush into any new relationships until you feel ready, and you have taken steps toward making sure you have child support.
2007-01-22 08:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by DW2020 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you move on which is what he told you to do will mke you more happier. I say this because you can do things on your own meet someone that may make you happy and if not just remember that you ex gave you something that no one else can beat your child.... I think that everyday. I love my lil girl more then life itself and my husband even if something bad was to happen between us which it has come close, I would always be thankful that I have my daughter and he gave me the best gift and that is the life of a child.... He may have meet someone and think he cares aout her more but maybe not maybe he wants to see how things will be without you and who you will feel when you meet someone else... if I were you I would move on even though its hard you can work through the feelings... just have family and friends to support you
2007-01-22 08:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by The H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he wants u to meet someone else then he definately is seeing someone, otherwise he'd be leaving the door open for himself. Its tough and it hurts to have to deal with this kind of thing, its like rejection without the possiblity of parole.
whats worse him telling you meet someone else is actually making things worse as it takes any good or comfort from actually meeting someone else. ppl should never say that to their ex, its insulting and diminutive and it dosnt help at all.
your better off forgetting about him and concetrate on your own life. dont try meeting someone else right now, wait until you have recovered enough and have you confidence back or youll just end up meeting the wrong person or messing things up if you do meet the right one. trust me ive been there, lost the t-shirt.
2007-01-22 08:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left once before and he did it again, this has become a patern, don't sit around waiting for someone who does not deserve u. Move on Mr. Right or someone close to it might be waiting for. Its time u let go, don't hold on to something that will only cause u pain.
2007-01-22 08:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As terrible as it must have made you feel for him to leave you, you need to find a way to accept it and move on.
When someone tells you to move on, they mean precisely that. He does not want to be with you anymore. Arguing with him and going nuts if you find out he's with someone else won't change things and just makes you look weak and pathetic.
The best thing you can do for yourself and your son, is MOVE ON. You should ONLY contact him as it pertains to your sons needs, and then, you should not be argumentative.
I'm so sorry you have been left alone to care for your child - as so many other women have. There are some low-down men out there - your ex sounds like one of them. You don't need someone like that in your life.
Work on feeling good about yourself - and in time focus on finding a quality man who can handle responsibility and make a committment to ONE woman - there ARE men like that out there. Good luck to you and your new baby.
2007-01-22 08:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is asking you to move on that means he has already made new plans other wise he would have come back to you like the last time so its no use waiting for him you too move on
2007-01-22 08:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋