This has been bothering me for quite some time now. My live in bf of less than a year gives his cat more attention than he gives me. He sweet talks his cat, hugs the cat when he sleeps and says that his cat (his first pet) is considered like a son. He then tells me that he loves me more than anything in the world. I love him to death, and we're very happy together except for this little situation. It just kills me to see that the cat gets more "pampering" than I do. Its the cats house, and the cats bed that we live in. Everything is the cat's. He stares adoringly and has moments with the cat. I just feel like i'm just an outsider that he talks too. Anyone go through this? Should I be feeling like this? Should I reconsider our relationship because of this? What should I do?
2007-01-22 07:45:58 · 12 answers · asked by Issy 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
Allot of people deal with this. My family also has to play second best to my dogs. Animals seem to be just less demanding and hurtful than people so we just love them differently. Not necessarily more.
2007-01-22 07:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha ha my mom and dad both do the same thing... sometimes pampering the cats more then each other!!
lucky cat to have someone that pampers him so much!! if you really feel like an outsider that he talks too, then you need to have a serious chat with him and tell him that you would like some of the same kind of attention yourself.
also, try and get closer to the cat yourself so you can all feel like family.
2007-01-22 08:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry so much about it. My fiance does the same thing with our cat. I was a little jealous for a while but eventually I realized that its no big deal. I still cant get over how he spoils her now when he was so against getting her at first. He said he wasnt a cat person..........HA!
2007-01-22 07:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Megan O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men have a hard time displaying affectionate feelings to other humans. However, animals provide an outlet for the feelings he may have been taught were "not manly" to have. Be thankful for the cat. You're being shown what a great father he could be.
2007-01-22 07:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by mistress_piper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend says the same thing about me. Just try loving the cat as well.
2007-01-22 08:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by diva_m3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't feel jealous of his cat my dad and my mom went through the same situation til the cat died but still you know he loves you more don't even feel that way
2007-01-22 07:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 00:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I adore my husband too, but I may dote on the cat too much too. My husband says I don't pamper him as much as I used to, but I still love him sooo much. I make my husband lunch every morning before work and I cook dinner. I just don't talk as much to him maybe after work. But he watches TV anyway.
We love our pets, but we also love our Significant others. Don't worry, but make sure you get what you need from him to.
2007-01-22 07:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel that way. The love he has for his cat is like a person who loves their baby.
It's a different kind of love. MANY people act like he does with their dog or cat. He loves you. Just in a different way.
I would stay with him.
2007-01-22 07:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try loving the cat too, then you both will have a kitty son, and will be proud parents, and your love will grow from there
2007-01-22 07:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋