Ive been friends wiht my best "guy" friend for as long as i remember. And i never had that thought of us being together. BUT the other day he told me thta he likes and has liked me for a while. I But i dont feel the same way about him. I dont want ot hurt him, is there anyway i can tell him that i jus dont want to be with him, but in a way he will understand where im coming from?
2007-01-22 07:40:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be very kind and gentle, but honest. Tell him that you value his friendship, but not in a romantic way. Be firm and tell him what your relationship with him is and what it isn't. You don't want to encourage his feelings further, but you don't want to crush them either. You're in a very delicate situation, so handle it delicately. Good luck to you.
2007-01-22 07:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would play the game like nothing has been said. I can't imagine there being anything worse than trying to pretend there's something there when honestly you have no clue. Remember that if you want someone, or something you will -never- get it unless you reach your hand out and grasp for it... you should overcome being shy and don't let your friends try to "make relationships works for you" Plus honestly. If you striaghtly just plainly liked this boy, would you tell him that your best friend likes him? I think not. Play to be possesive and not be screwed over by a jealous girl!!! - try to make small talk with him!!! -
2016-05-23 22:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post is untrue.
You two are not friends. You have never been friends.
He wants to date you. You use him as a friend. Its not a real friendship, and you'll never have one. He finally stopped lying and admitted what he wanted. 'Keeping things the way they are' would mean him pretending to be friends again.
Tell him you have absolutely no interest in him that way, and never will. If he has any sense at all, which he probably doesn't, he'll stop having anything to do with you, because you are standing in the way of him having a real relationship with someone else.
2007-01-22 08:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you care about him - I think the best way to handle this and stay friends is to be open an honest. It sounds like you have a really good friendship. Tell him the honest truth in love, be sensitive about the way you tell him, you know him best, you will know how to tell him without 'destroying' him. I have found that friendships thrive on love, respect and honesty. Hope everything works out ok .
2007-01-22 07:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by jules2001za 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing is to sleep with him, then let him down easy and tell him you just want to be friends. That way, he'll always have the memory of a night together with you, which will help compensate for the disappoinment of just being friends. That would be the kindest thing - I know that's what I'd want :)
2007-01-22 07:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it really is a no win situation. Just because you tell him you love him as a friend or your friendship is to valuable, doesnt mean he will be able to just turn off his feelings. Anything you do other than agree to date him will be a disappointment to him. I'm sorry. Just be kind, gracious and loving and hope he can work through these feelings.
2007-01-22 07:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, tell him that you really like him, and that you LOVE your friendship even more.
I HAD a guy best friend. notice i said HAD, we tried being more, and now I have nothing.
And that is usually what ends up happening.
Tell him that you don't want to jeopardize your friendship to try dating. Who knows, someday you might change your mind, but for now it's all you want.
be carefull when approaching the subject though, you don't want to upset him.
I think that sometimes we confuse comfortable with other feelings. I feel comfortable , and I like 'like' you are confusing.
Good luck, and I hope he understands.
2007-01-22 07:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really mate, i asked a similar question not long ago and theres no way of letting him know without him being hurt or embarassed. just be honest, thats all you can do to cause as little damage as possible. then give him some time to come round to the idea. it'll be fine xxx
2007-01-22 07:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by hana woo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago my girlfriend had the same problem, she answered truthfully & she told him she loved him as a friend & a brother.She did not see him in a rommantic light at all.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-22 07:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by Neil S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just don't like him because you have been friends with him - Its biological hardwiring. Usually the best relationships involve people who are best friends.
Think about it
2007-01-22 07:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋