About to be a first time dad of twins , got any sensible advise please ?

Answer 1

Congrats!
Seek out as much help as you can from friends and family around you to pitch in. It's hard enough with one but two can take it's toll.

Learn to make time for you, so that all you are doing is not taking care of the kids all the time.

learn to relax. Stress will get to you.

Look forward to the joys of having twins...it's a special experience.

Here is a site that will guide you through some common mistakes first time parents of twins make.

http://multiples.about.com/od/twinfants/tp/twinfantmistake.htm

Here is a message board dedicated to parents of twins. Its' a great ressource for you.

http://www.twinsworld.com/ubbcgi2/ultimatebb.cgi

Answer 2

my wife and I have twin daughters and it amazing, alot of hard work but really good. I would suggest that you buy the book 'from lad to dad' its a good read and you can get it off amazon.co.uk or most book shops. The best thing is to take a day a day at a time when the babies are born, although there twins they will have different personalities so when one is hungry or grumpy the other maybe quite contented, so dont put yourself under pressure. Invest in 2 bouncy chairs as they are great for occupying them. Also give your partner alot of support and make sure that you both communicate with each other as bringing the twins home will be stressful but once your in a routine you will be fine. Let the grandparents help you both as much as possible even if its with washing and ironing. You might not think it now but you will find everything comes to you naturally. My wife and I are now expecting another again and she is due in 4wks but its one baby this time! good luck

Answer 3

Try as best you can to plan ahead (i know this isnt easy) and not have to rush around doing things, cook meals in advance and freeze them and let family and friends help out (there is nothing wrong with accepting help and support)

This will give you and your partner time to spend together in the rare occasion of a quiet moment.

The hardest thing about having one child let alone two is the strain the stress and sleepless nights can have on a relationship and your own self-being

Good luck and congratulations i'm sure you will do well

Answer 4

Hi Daddy to be, watching my husband with our daughters the best advice I can give you is never feel afraid to show your children affection, they thrive on it, my hubby gets a few odd looks because our 13 year old daughter is still such a Daddy's girl she holds his hand occasionally when out shopping, and with our 6 year old (another girl) he's not afraid to get down on the floor and play Barbies etc, love your children, imagine they are unfillable containers and do everything you can to fill the container full of pure love and devotion....and NEVER EVER forget to tell your wife she's beautiful, a great mother, and how much you love her, in the first few months especially after having twins, she's going to need extra love as well as support from you, good luck, I hope all goes well, Take care, Yvette

Answer 5

just role with it don't try to make a routine they will form their own try and do the cleaning and laundry so your wife doesn't feel the need to clean while the babies are sleeping let her sleep too the first couple weeks are not the hardest despite what you might think (unless you wife is breastfeeding that takes a couple days to get the hang of) after the first couple weeks when they decide not to sleep as much thats much more interesting be there for her and don't leave her all alone unless you are going to work she needs to have adult conversations too

Answer 6

Try and get them into a routine asap! The sooner they settle into one, the easier you and your partner will find it....

Also, try not to forget that your partner has had not one but TWO little people squeezed out of her- its very likely she'll be a bit sore and useless to start off with so book as much paternity time as possible.... Also, remember post-natal depression is common so if she starts acting a bit weird try and get her to the GP (sorry to mention the negatives but you did say sensible advice and these are things often overlooked!)

But, as everyone said, just love them as much as you can and the rest (even the mistakes!) won't matter!

Good luck!

Answer 7

hi wow! congrats ! my advise would be if someone offers you help take it ! your no good to two babies if ur too tired to stand up having one baby is hard work but two would be a whole lot more fun. time together with your partner is important too dont forget just because you have two babies your still a couple and its not always easy to remember that inamongst a pile of dirty nappies and bottles moast of all have fun and enjoy your little bundles of fun and take lots of photos the time goes really quick when you have kids they grow up so fast!:)

Answer 8

organization is the key. and always remember taking care of twins is a jpb in itself, so always help out when you can. babies are unpredictable so you never know what will come up but one thing to stick with is keeping everything organized to help get through the day.Make sure you schedule your day out and if you hve appointments always wake up a little earlier to add the extra acticvity to your day. good luck a mother of twins

Answer 9

Oh how exciting x

My sister has twins and my uncle, I beleive it was going to a nightmare double trouble type thing but it really isn't as bad as everyone will tell you.....

They are content because they have each other, my sisters sleep in the same cot and hold hands they are 6 months now.....

good luck xxxxxx

Answer 10

Just be glad you don't have any other kids to begin with. It's easier to learn how to deal with two, then handle one later on, then to learn how to deal with one, then try to figure out how to handle two babies. Otherwise, relax. Sleep now. Get a double stroller, buy lots of diapers and wipes, and make sure you help out and take on your fair share. Congratulations and good luck.