I love the mother and daughter to death (we have been together about 15 months), but I think the daughter, doesn't like me, becuase I take time away from her and her mother. I do spend time with the daughter, play with her, taught her to ride her bike, and help her with her homework. The mother, wants to end the relationship, using the daughter as an excuse, saying "if it were just me and you, it's great", but with the daughter, its not going to work? I think its a cop out. Thoughts?
2007-01-22 07:34:32 · 9 answers · asked by Russell O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should not use her daughter as an excuse to break up with you. That is absolutely just wrong. What if she said the same thing to some guy who is a total psycho. I shudder to think of the kind of responce that could get!
It is good to try to do things with both mother and daughter and of course still have some date time for the two of you.
Your girlfriend my just need to stop dating until her daughter is completely raised if she thinks it is going to be too much. That works for a lot of people. It may be the best way to go. If she is willing to end it, you might just have to follow her wishes. Or you could ask that the two of you get your minds together and come up with some solutions. You should also talk to the daughter, and ask her how she feels about you dating her mother. Tell her it is okay to be perfectly honest. Maybe she can give you some new insight into this.
2007-01-22 07:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think it's a cop out. While it is VERY important for the child to like you, it is equally as important for the mother to live her life. We know that children can play you against one another if allowed. I am certainly not saying this is what is going on, but it does happen. I would suggest that you get the reasons why the child doesn't like you. If the daughter doesn't like you, then it will be hard for you to have a relationship with the mom b/c the mom will always feel forced to make decisions against the two of you. Good luck though, I hope it works out for you!
2007-01-22 15:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound weird that she is using her daughter as an excuse instead of being an adult and saying that things aren't just working out for you two. As for the daughter maybe she doesn't like you, and her mother has to pay attention to what her daughter feels because ultimately she is her top priority. I'm sorry that you have invested so much time into this relationship. But just take it for what it is and move on.
Good luck!
2007-01-22 15:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are dating a girl with a child then it is a package deal. If the daughter doesn't like you then you should talk to your girlfirend and see why she doesn't. It may be something you can work out. If it is just absolutely an issue that can not be resolved then you should move on. If the daughter doesn't act like she has an issue with you then your girlfriend may just be using her as a way out.
2007-01-22 15:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Weezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a cop out and she is using the daughter as an excuse
2007-01-22 15:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the woman to take a hike if she is so lame that she has to use her daughter as an excuse to break up. You can find plenty of women (with or without kids) who would appreciate a guy like you!!!
2007-01-22 16:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the 8yo daughter is telling her mum that she really cant stand you then it sounds like a cop out I'm afraid, its a shame you sound like a nice family guy, but don't torment yourself in a relationship that isn't going to work.
2007-01-22 15:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have someone else, the daughter may want her mother all to herself, or she may just need some alone time as alot do. Maybe if you give her some space she may come around later.
2007-01-22 15:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just using her daughter as a pathetic excuse as to why she doesn't want to be with you. If she has to lie about why she doesn't wanna be with you, what would she tell you when she was having an affair? Just think about it...
2007-01-22 15:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋