He is always working. We have 4 kids. We need the money but I need time with him too. Am I just being selfish?
2007-01-22 07:27:59 · 21 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a similar problem. And yes you're been selfish but it's the good kind. I started by checking our expenses. He doesn't have to work that hard for things that you don't really need. I always let him know how I appreciate all the work he's doing. Get a baby- sitter. You may just need some time to yourselves.
2007-01-22 07:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you work outside the home or is this your only financial income? I understand that working inside the home is hard work trut me I did it with four kids for six years and I know what you go thru doing this job. My question to you though, is if you stay home, are you behind on your bills? Do you have creditors calling your home? Maybe he is just trying to make a better life and while I know you need time together, maybe you could set up a date night once a month or once every other month to get more time together. Good luck and hang in there!
2007-01-22 07:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being selfish. But you're a mom and he's a 'fella' who is working to support 4 kids. What else can he do?
2007-01-22 07:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really if hes working hard then hes helping the family but if the kids are old enough to go to school you may want to consider a part time job just to help him out and then when your financially settled you can start to spend time with each other.
2007-01-22 07:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ky_bello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, reality is just that,REALITY!You don't have to like it but you do have to deal with it.We all have things we wish were different but if we curb our desires a bit we learn we can get by with what we have.
He has a good drive and does what he has to do for his family.Don't make him anymore under pressure than he needs to be.I am sure he feels just as bad if not worse about the time he gets to spend with you guys.Support him with your words and affection and make the best of it.It could be alot worse.He could be a crack addict that wont work and steals money from you and his kids to support his habit.Never look a gift horse in the mouth.
2007-01-22 07:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is doing his best to provide for you , but you 2 MUST find time for just the 2 of you. Late in the evening or get a sitter for overnight a couple times a month. You have to keep the romance alive. Meanwhile just keep telling him you love him & be supportive & understanding to his needs and let him know you need to make time to be together too.
2007-01-22 07:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish, every woman needs some alone time with her man. Ask him to take a day off (if its possible), if not try and set aside a special time of day (when you are both off) to sit down and just talk and get things across to each other.
Good luck to you, your man, your kids.
~flashylights*
2007-01-22 07:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate...my bf is a workaholic too...he is doing this for you though! i know it may not seem like he cares about you at times...but believe me the only thing that drives them is taking care of their family. Why not set a day where it can be alone time for you two? Maybe on a saturday or sunday get a babysitter and spend the whole day together! that way you will have your fill of him right before the work week begins again
2007-01-22 07:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you arent being selfish, I think that if he needs to provide for the family then this is a good thing. However I think that if he keeps telling you that he has to work late then he could be cheating, but then again, maybe not. Its just something to think about you know.....On the other hand, I think its good that he is out working to support his family
2007-01-22 07:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH AT ALL! I HAVE TWO KIDS AND ONE MORE ON THE WAY, SO I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. SOMETIMES, THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO PLAN THE TIME IN ADVANCE. LIKE, TWO DAYS FROM NOW REGARDLESS OF HOW LATE HE MAKES IT HOME, HAVE DINNER WITH ONE ANOTHER. FEED THE KIDS FIRST OF COURSE. THEN WAIT FOR HIM. THEN COMMUNICATE HOW EACH OTHERS DAY WENT. TRUST ME, CHANCES ARE HE FEELS THE SAME WAY YOU DO!
2007-01-22 07:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by sweet01dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋