I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now, and we are truly in love. Now here is the story, he still lives with his Dad, and says that he would like to get out. I own my own Condo, and have alot of money invested in this. Now where I live and where he works is opposite sides of the city. I have told him that I will sell my place and we can buy a place together if he just moves in with me for like a month or so. We have lived together at his Dad's place, but never just the 2 of us. I just want to make sure that we can live together by ourselves before I put all this money into a new place. But he says that he wants to live together, just doesnt want to make that drive everyday. Now keep in mind that I have to commute everyday regardless. I just dont think that one month is that big of a deal when it comes to the big picture. Everyone that I have talked to agrees with me, but I need biased opinions. Am I asking for too much or is he just not being fair? Thanks.
2007-01-22 07:21:47 · 14 answers · asked by buggaboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not asking for too much if anything hes the one who is. I dont get him you have your own place why would you move out just because he doesnt want to commute thats ridiculous In my opinion i think u should stay in your condo he should move in with you first see what happens. People almost always have to travel/commute to and from work also it sounds like all hes thinkn about is his needs for you to get up and sell your condo is asking for a lot whats the big deal he needs to stop whining and just move in with you already instead of living with his dad good luck
2007-01-22 07:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable for him to make the commute. If I may suggest that the two of you discuss where you're relationship is going before you both buy into a new place. If you are not both on the same page it could cause a lot of headaches in the long run. I personally feel like you guys should just live together for a while in your place and see how things go before making that next step.
2007-01-22 07:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody commutes and let me tell you something, it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't really want to move in with you. It sounds like he is putting excuses. However, at the same time it seems that you are going to do all the spending and that you are the one with all the money. Don't do it girl !! You should never support a man. TEST HIM, if he really wants to move in with you, then ask him to find you both an apartment and to pay the deposit and the first month rent. I think he still lives with his dad because he doesn't want to become responsible and pay !
I am going out on a limb saying this.... Only you know him..... but if you think I am right, he is not worth it.
2007-01-22 07:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to help and keep your investment. You are being more than reasonable, and he's whining about your generousity. Remember the real estate market is not very good right now and you may carry 2 mortgages until your current place sells. Tell him to move in with a buddy then work it out.
2007-01-22 07:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in the relationship you only hear what you want to hear. People have already given you their opinion's and I'm sure many will say the same thing again. Like I've told my sister about her decision, whatever you chose you better live up to that expectation!
2007-01-22 07:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by tran21t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... you know what the problem is?
You have put yourself on the back burner for way too long and He now believes that he deserves you.
Nope. On the contrary... Its a previlege that he is your boyfriend and you really need to move on if he isn't ready to make a compromise.
PS: Dating for years is way too long.
2007-01-22 07:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not being fair. if he really wants to move out that badly then he will do the drive thing. if not then let him continue living with his dad and u can find someone more independent ...
2007-01-22 07:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for him to grow up and cut the ties with living at home. comuteing is no big deal. if not find someone else and have a better life!
2007-01-22 07:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 month is no biggie. He is not looking at the big picture
2007-01-22 07:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're totally right. He has to be able to meet you half way if he loves you. Let him know that.
2007-01-22 07:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋