Seriously...it's been 8 months and I think he's the foulest creature. Does that ever change?
2007-01-22 07:15:44 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He must have given you good reason to feel this way...you may never change these thoughts.
2007-01-22 07:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will in good time. The reason for you hating your ex is because in some ways you still care for him. You may not thinks so, and you might not believe me but you do. It's the good memories that you make that are the hardest to forget. The bad one's are the easiest. Like say the reason you broke up was because you fought all the time. Right now when you think about it you probally can't remember why you were fighting, but on the other hand you probally can remember that one moment a year ago that you both looked at each other and with out saying a word you knew exactly what the other was thinking. That memory is the one that will haunt you forever. Not the one's where he was a jerk. As time goes on you will move on with or without each other. You will have breif moments where you think of him and wonder what might have been, but then you will come back to reality and remember the person who is in your life now. The person who you love. At that time you will stop hating him so much, because you will be able to realize what your life would have been like with him if you would have stayed together. Dont worry it may seem hard now to forgive but in a couple years from now it won't matter anymore. You will have your life and he will have his.
Good Luck
Hope this Helps
2007-01-22 07:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is the foulest creature. You should forgive him......but that doesn't mean you need to forget him. As for you to ever stop hating your ex, well that would depend on you......if you want to stop hating your ex. You could also chaulk this up as experience......that way you'll make sure you'll never repeat that mistake again. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-22 07:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... I must say that time does heal most wounds...
However, with that being said - it depends on why you 2 broke up! I mean... honestly - if he was abusive... cheated... or something of the like - I would have to say - there are reasons that you would hate him.
Remember... HATE is a very difficult term. You have to expense energy to HATE someone.... I would suggest that you not forgive him... but LET the stress of HATE go!
I have been married and divorced - to a man who was "abusive" and I hated him for a long time.
After several years apart...and being remarried to a wonderful man.. I have learned that I needed to move on. I am much happier now!
Good Luck!
2007-01-22 07:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for a very long time depending on how bad the break up. It took me about 5 years until I could stand breathing the same air. Hate is unhealthy. I would work on trying to get over it as best you can because speaking from experience, it can be quit distructive to you and those around you.
2007-01-22 07:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Perri L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get over something, you have to let yourself do it.
Also, he may be the foulest creature alive, but at one point its what you wanted. Don't regret that.
2007-01-22 07:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by justasking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable no guy placed you low adequate to make you hate him. that's what Gandhi suggested, it makes relatively some experience. If he's gonna hate you for this, it relatively is his fault to waste his own time being bitter while he must be shifting on like a stable guy and appreciating the hot gf. So there you pass- pass detect a sparkling guy who merits you greater advantageous. stable good fortune
2016-11-01 00:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by ridinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes too much energy to hate someone. Whatever he did I'm quite sure he deserves your hate, but at the end of the day you are still not happy. So if I were you I would just let that hatred go and do things that make you happy.
2007-01-22 07:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, depending on what he did. What you can do is find a new partner. But seriously, buying a couple of darts and throwing them at a picture of your ex from across the room isn't actually against the law ^_~ just as long as you don't throw it at the actual person hehe
2007-01-22 07:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hating him gives him power over you. Why do you give him that power? Why do you continue to carry that baggage around with you?
The anger hurts only you. The ultimate revenge is to make him irrelevant. That can only happen when you completely forgive him, set down the burden of hate, and move forward with your life.
2007-01-22 07:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hated my Ex for a long time...then I realized that he wasn't worth the energy needed to sustain anger and hate. So now I just ignore the fact that he exists.
2007-01-22 07:18:58 · answer #11 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋