he is 30 and i am 22,we are planning to get married next year,but he already as two kids.should i still get married to him.i love him so much and he loves me too.
2007-01-22 07:11:12 · 14 answers · asked by marsha w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him, I don't see why not. As long as you're happy.
2007-01-22 07:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a #, my wife is 26, I will be 43 the 10th of next month.
I have 2 daughters the oldest is 24 the youngest 7, I have 2 grandsons 5 & 3.
My wife has never had children. We have a great marriage, we have been together 4 1/2 yrs married 3 1/2 yrs
2007-01-22 07:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Todd V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you questioning if you should marry this man? You knew he had kids when you met him....correct? So what if he is older than you, you say that you love him & he loves you....what is the real issue? Is there something going on that you are in denial about? Are you doubting that you want to become an instant mother? It seems like you may have some things to sort out within yourself. If you weren't ready to help him raise his children you should not have agreed to marry him. You have to accept him and all that comes with him, if that is something you don't feel like you can do, then let him know that now.
2007-01-22 07:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two been dating and how old are the kids? Do they stay with him? Do you get along with them?
It all depends on what you really want. If you love him, then you should love the whole package...kids and all. But if it's too much for you to handle, then don't get married.
One of my friends said that she would not marry a man with kids, because she wanted that to be a shared "first" experience. Is that how you feel?
2007-01-22 07:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm 32 soon to be ex-husband is 41 ,not a good idea,nothing in common.There is a big differece between love and lust. And if you have a problem that he has children,you are already asking for trouble,sorry ,but his kids will come first,then you.That is just the way it is.So if you love him & his children ,and have common intrest,that is the only way I would go for it. Best of Luck!
2007-01-22 07:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Summer :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you also know and like his kids? Are you going to become their 'full time' step-mom, or only see them on 'visits' and what will your 'role' be with them? If you love your guy and he loves you that is only the 'first step' when he has minor children from another relationship. BE SURE you have talked everything over with him BEFORE you get 'engaged' even, and be sure that you can 'live with it' the way it will be, because you will be only the 'step' parent and will have no 'legal rights' in anything to do with them until/unless you are adopting them as 'your own' in a court of law.
2007-01-22 07:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should sit and openly discuss the impact the kids will have on your relationship and future children as well. Further, discuss what impact your relationship will have on the children. I hope you have met the children. It's your relationship, and you and he should be open and honest about what you are hoping to get from it. If you still have reservations after the talks, put things off until you feel more secure.
2007-01-22 07:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by rbow39two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should marry him still if u really love him. Love the kids as if they were your own. If you really love him accept his kids
2007-01-22 07:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him then why would it matter that he has children? Haven't you spent time with him and his children? If you haven't I suggest you should before getting married.
2007-01-22 07:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years... oooo, you grave robber!!! SHEESH!!! what is the problem??? you love him, enjoy... and come back when you start getting the hots for 50 year old men... ;)
2007-01-22 07:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋