My fiance and I have been dating for almost 2 years. My mother claims that she likes him but he has been saying since he met her he has a feeling that she didn't like him. On Christmas he proposed to me, all of my family was happy for us but she seemed as though she doesn't care too much. She always wants him to come to around but she talks crap about him behind his back, and he doesn't want to around her because he feels as though she's faking like she likes him. Every since we moved in together last year, she has been trying to get me to move back in with her. She's not realizing that when she left us, 10 years ago, to be with her man she put a strain on our relationship. Now he doesn't know if he wants to be with me beacuse he feels that my mother will try anything to break us up. She does things like tell lies about him. He has never been abusive, mentally or physically. It's tearing me up emotionally. I don't want to choose between my mother and fiance but what should I do?
2007-01-22 07:06:58 · 6 answers · asked by cjstudent2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you have to realize that you are an adult now and you have your own life, you have moved on and seperated from your mother in a sense. and whether she likes it or not if that is who you love and want to spend the rest of your life with dont let her or anyone else stand in the way of that.
2007-01-22 07:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by brittany_michelle_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i become and nonetheless interior the priority like you communicate of. i ultimately become operating and taking care and elevating my brother and sister. i ultimately moved out and meet a guy in yet another state and moved there. I then moved lower back reason that didnt workout recurring so then i moved into my personal position of abode and then i moved in with my fiance. I now stay 4 hours away and that i ultimately omitted and am ignoring my mom thoroughly. I reduce her off and performance lengthy gone on with my existence. My dad actual noted as very last nighttime to work out if i become nonetheless alive. Hadn't talked to him in a month. Dad and that i typically had a good relationship till he become performing like my mom and going mutually with her and turning his lower back on me. i do not call them or digital mail themno more suitable for something. i'm doing tremendous and haven't any regrets. in case you commence operating now in case you do not have a job get a component time pastime thats what i did. I went to severe college and then after college worked from 4pm to 7:30 or 8 pm each nighttime and were given more suitable hours on breaks and holiday journeys. I kept up money a finished of $5,000 kept from the summer season of 2005 to 2007 I then were given an finished time pastime when I were given out of highschool. i'm 21 now and do not confer with my mom in any respect. you should continually get provides you to assist pay for school. I wish you the finest of success
2016-10-15 22:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel..... my mom is trying to break up my relationship right now as well.... but if he loves you he won't leave you... if he loves you he won't let anyone get in between you guys...... set the facts straight with your mom.. lay the foot down... tell her to leave you guys alone or put a restraining order against her if it gets that serious....She is your mother and she should be happy for you not against you... that could just be one case...... she also might just be asking for attention.. how often time did you spend with her??? take some time off and spend some time with her and find out whats bugging her... just take a deep breathe it will be alright.. :)
2007-01-22 07:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand, i understand, i am going through something similar.
i actually moved a couple of hours away, and I still deal with opinions on a man they "like". although, as soon as I do not jump through one of her hoops, he's an asshole, when he has nothing to do with it.
live your life.
they are going to live theres, and I am sure they won't let anything effect it. so live yours.
if he is a good man, that us all you need to ask for..
screw everybody else, they 're hating on you.
2007-01-22 07:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to be happy. if it is with him, then do not let your mom destroy it. she has issues and may just be taking it out on him. DO not choose between them. tell your mom you love her, but he is who you want to be with. ask her to just be happy for you. if she cannot accept that or give you her blessing, deal with her on that level. i hope it works out for you...been there. be honest with both of them. stick up for HIM and let him know he will be first with you.etc...
2007-01-22 07:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand my mom is doing the same thing... i just complety ignore her and what she says about him because i no it is not true and if she wants to act like that let her it is her own lose she pushed you away
2007-01-22 07:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by brandix42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋