Me and My bf have been dating awhile.. and here lately he's changed a lil bit..He don't call like he used to and always wants to hang out at my house of his..he doesn't like to go out like he used to..But when were together he's really sweet....He's really nicer than he used to be especially when our friends are around..And well it's kinda bothering me about hows he's acting..I Really like him.. but I don't want to stay home all the time..I know this all sounds kinda childish but I don't want to overreact about this whole deal..What should I do and what is up with him?
2007-01-22 07:01:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it sounds like he's mellowing out. He's growing up and he wants to spend romantic nights in. Don't overreact to it. He just wants to relax and spend quality time with you, I imagine. Of course, you can ask him "Is there something bothering you? You seem a little different." But be very sweet about it. =] Ask him how is job is, etc. Hope that helped.
2007-01-22 07:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by KMChickk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could be way off here, but the not wanting to go out as much part could be about money. Sometimes when guys are a little short on cash, they have too much pride to tell you right now that they can't afford to take you out. Next time you guys talk about getting together, maybe you could offer to treat HIM to dinner or a movie.
The part that concerns me the most here though, is that he's not calling like he used to. If he isn't paying as much attention to you and he doesn't seem to want to be around his place -- it could be that he may be seeing someone else on the side.
PLEASE don't take my word for it and go picking a fight -- but I think the most important thing here is that you have a talk with him about your concerns, and tell him how you've been feeling that he's changed. I've found that sometimes we think a guy knows how we feel or knows something is wrong -- and they don't have the first clue!
I am sure if you have a talk with him some answers will come to light. Just try to approach him honestly and carefully, without coming off like you're ragging on him. If you try and can't get him to respond to your concerns, that could be a sign of a deeper issue.
Good luck, girl! :)
2007-01-22 15:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION and HONESTY are the keys to a Great long lasting relationship*
Sit down and tell him that you find he's acting totally different and that you don't want to just "sit at home all the time.........Life is too short to sit around"
You start to make plans for the weekends...doing different things so you're not stuck at home 24/7.....if he doesn't want to join you........go without him* LIVE LIFE*~ don't let it Pass you by*
2007-01-22 15:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has decided he has spent enough money on you to get you and it is cheaper to stay home than to go out and do stuff. Remind him you need to get out and have fun and if he won't there will be someone that will. You aren't ready to build a nest and stay at home.
2007-01-22 15:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose relationship is this, yours or his? it takes 2 to be in a realtionship, if hes not willing to meet you half way and do some things you like to do, i would get out of the relationship
2007-01-22 15:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just tired
I really don't mind when I want to stay home and my wife wants to go out.
If I want to go out sometimes I do, its Winter, my neck hurts, my heart hurts, I'm gonna hibernate for awhile, in Springtime I will go out more.
2007-01-22 15:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM THAT YOU LOVE BEING ALONE WITH HIM, BUT YOU WOULD ALSO LOVE TO GO OUT IN PUBLIC EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE, TO DINNER,MOVIES, JUST OUT!! TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE GETTING TIRED OF STAYING HOME ALL OF THE TIME, AND ALSO ASK HIM IF HE IS EMBARRASSED TO GO OUT IN PUBLIC WITH YOU, THEN HOPEFULLY HE SAYS NO, AND GETS THE HINT ABOUT GOING OUT AND WILL PROBABLY WANT TO GO OUT IN THE WORLD. THIS HAD WORKED WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND NOW WE ARE MARRIED AND THATS WHAT I HAD TO DO HE LOVED TO STAY AT HOME AND WATCH MOVIES AND BE BY OURSELFS. NOW HE DOES LIKE TO DO THINGS TOGETHER AND ALSO TO DO THINGS WITH OUR FRIENDS. GOOD LUCK!!! HOPE IT HELPS!!
2007-01-22 15:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has a problem that hes not telling you! he don't like doin the things he used to. has he gotten into a fight w/ his parents or one of his friends? did someone say something bout how lucky he is to have you or is he afraid of loosen you. and don't wanna shair you w/ everyone. you need to talk to him he is the only one that knows whats truly wrong! tell him you are worried and you don't know what to do!
2007-01-22 15:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by porkey_jrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to save money. I mean, why do you want to go out? Usually people go out to meet people. Maybe he likes to have you all to himself without all the noise and crowds.
Does he have enough $$? Maybe he cant afford to go out all the time. Do ever offer to pay the bill when you go out?
2007-01-22 15:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by suziblues2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that him really the one from before it was a cover up or maybe he got tired of it or he have somebody else who knows the best way is to talk to him good luck
2007-01-22 15:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by tuchulapr0808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋