When I was 17 I was very innocent madly in love with this guy..well he apparently knew and invited me over to "watch a movie"..he pressured me soo much and that night I got my first kiss and lost my virginity.
Well I'm 21 and still regret it..when I went away to college I told people I was a virgin..and yes I feel horrible b/c it's a lie. Well I am dating this guy Caleb and he is a keeper it's official now..and he always says how cool he thinks it is that I'm a virgin and how he respects me. I don't want to start off with a big lie, but if I tell him he may lose trust in me and break it off. Ahh what should I do?!?
2007-01-22 06:35:10 · 24 answers · asked by goldengirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sh.it tell him when you started high school at 15 you hooked up and experemented just like most other kids and you just wanted to try it and that it was a one time thing.. you where at a party with your buddys and you peoplez was drinking and one thing led to another.......... Or you can tell the little ***.ga the truth it was a one time thing, he'd be a dumb as.s if he leave just because your not a virgin and you didnt tell him........ tell him you where afraid and that you never told anyone cause you where afraid.... That was the past who cares it wasnt while you where with him.... has he told you how many girls hes fuc.ked............i dont think so........
2007-01-22 06:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you made a mistake and you lied. But sometimes telling the truth to make yourself feel better is worse because you are hurting him with something he would have never even known. Have you had sex since that time you were 17? If not there is a small chance that your body could bleed the same way it did when you lost your virginity. In that case... no one will ever be able to tell. BUT may this be a lesson learned! DO NOT LIE!!!! Its worse in the long run.
2007-01-22 06:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally I would say to keep your mouth shut. However, since the question of your virginity is an issue in your relationship you should probably fess up and hope that your little mistake doesn't cause irreparable damage to the relationship.
OTOH, if he would let a little mistake when you were 17 destroy an otherwise wonderful thing, perhaps he's not the guy you thought he was...
Of course, you could always classify it as "date rape" if you weren't really totally willing. However, this seems kind of like a cop out to me.
2007-01-22 06:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've already answered your own question.
"I don't want to start off with a big lie"
You owe it to him to tell him the truth. If he's the right one, and if he honestly cares about you, he will be understanding of what you have to say and he will appreciate that you are being truthful about an uncomfortable subject.
if this is the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with, he is also going to be your best friend and you need to be able to discuss Anything with him (and vice-versa).
If you don't tell him... Eventually your guilt will catch up with you.
It is FAR better to get his reaction today, then it would be at dinner in front of your children 5 years or so down the road.
2007-01-22 06:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing, hes horse is way high for having a virgin as a girlfriend. if you tell him your going to crush him, but i like my self i hate lies eventually i divorced my ex for being such a lier. hope this is the only lie you have on him. but yes i think you should tell him and explain when and the reason you regret it. that you have always taken that experience as a dream. That in your mind that never happend, and you still feel like a virgin, inside and outside. and let him know how you feel about him. let him know also that thats why it never happend again. good luck =)
2007-01-22 06:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by hotrod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him exactly what you just told all of us. Tell him that you thought about it an you don't want him to hear something and think your a liar. Just say I have had sex but it was such a horrible experience that I try not to think about it. I mean just explain it to him that you thought you were in love with the guy and that he pressured you and before you knew it had happened. If you explain to him that you were used in the situation I'm sure it will be ok. I think he would understand that if you were taken advantage of. Good Luck.
Hope
2007-01-22 06:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Koolaid 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You"ve already told THE BIG LIE so on your wedding night remember what you did the night you lost your virginity and fake it. All you have to worry about then is running into the guy you did it with at your tenth anniversary party!!!!
2007-01-22 06:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont try to lie as eventually you will end-up even more depressed..... Be brave & say what happened was an innocent and irresponsible behaviour and also say to him tht you think he can understand you and will act maturely and hence you are ....
confronting
2007-01-22 06:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Romps 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. You will feel better, knowing that you are honest with him. Tell him what happened and how you always regretted that night. If he really is the one for you, he will understand and forgive you for the lie. Good luck.
2007-01-22 06:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
what happend was consensual so story short you did lie. If you don't want to admit you had sex you should just not tell anyone about your sexual history and tell them it is none of their business. You are officially now a liar. You should be honest with people you love. You life will be much more meaningful.
2007-01-22 06:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋