1k/month in the area? If they are paying rent, should they be allowed to stay longer? If they do stay at home past age 18, should they still be treated like teenagers?
2007-01-22 06:32:44 · 23 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should definitely treat them like an adult after the age of 18 because they ARE adults. U should make them chip in a little and just take responsibilty. BUT, i believe the parents house should always be open to the child because it is your child. If they mess up and dont have anywhere else to go you can't just leave them homeless right??
2007-01-22 06:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by so sophisticated 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Parents can kick their adult kids out of their house anytime after the age of 18. When a child turns 18, he becomes a legal adult and the parents don't have to support them anymore.
If the parents want to let the kid stick around longer, that's completely up to them. It's also up to the parents whether the kid will pay rent. But just because an 18 year old says they'll pay rent doesn't meant that the parents are in any way obligated to let the kid stay.
And as for being treated like teenagers, the "It's my house, my rules" and "So long as you live under my roof, you live by rules" thing still applies.
2007-01-22 08:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thirty's a little too old to be living with your folks - sorry. It's quite unforuntately that she seems to be aimlessly drifting around from one place to the next. And, we all have the ability to make differences in our own lives as adults. The place she has chosen to settle in (for now) was a choice she has made. I understand that her parents were thinking they'd be able to buy her a place, but then backed out. Whenever you have a relative that you are going to provide a place for them to live and expect they're going to get their "rent money" - most of the time, they get burned. So, I completely understand able the parents having second thoughts and backing out of the deal. At thirty, she needs to take responsibility for herself and her choices. If she is battling depression, she needs to talk to a doctor about it. Also, she likes to live the way she likes to live - and that being with her music too loud, staying up late, etc. so she becomes an impossion when she's a house guest so it sounds like she's better off living alone. Thirty's not a kid anymore and it's probably a big awakening for her that she's on her own now. Many people have survived being on their own and allowed to grow up.
2016-05-23 22:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age children should be required to leave home depends on what they are doing in life. My step-brother was going to school and got two degrees and had a couple of months to get a job and put back money for deposits before he ended up completely on his own. A child who has graduated high school, won't go to college and parties all the time and doesn't want to work should be told to leave immediately. The cost of housing doesn't really matter. However, if someone pays rent, they are tenants and should not be expected to live by their parents' rules. Asking for money means you do not have the right to tell them what to do outside of your house as long as they are paying. If the tenant were a stranger, you wouldn't treat them like a child. My dad tried to change me rent and get me to do all the housework. I moved out. I got tired of picking up after him and me.
2007-01-22 06:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the situation. If they are going to college, for instance, I'd let my kids stay at home until they graduated if that's what they wanted. If they were working full time, I'd let them stay for a year or so (19-20 ish) while they were trying to figure out what they wanted to do with life, however I'd start charging rent after a year or so. I wouldn't let them bum around for more than a couple months after graduation; either get a job or go to school, or move out. But by 22/23/24 tops they should really be looking into moving out(or already moving) because by 25 you really should have enough of your life and what you want to do figured out that you can live on your own.
I'd treat my kids like the adults they are, but still demand the respect I should get as their mother. In other words, they can do what they want, stay out late, whatever, as long as its a) legal, and b) they keep me informed of what they are up to (a simple phone call "hey mom, I won't be home til really late tonight, bye" would work). As long as my kids act like adults, I'll treat them as such.
2007-01-22 06:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by lemonlimeemt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children should definitely be kicked out after they have a college degree. The only exception is if they are in grad school, flash flooding, or national disaster. Even in these situations they should probably stop wining and move on with their lives. If a studio apartment costs to much find roommates. You can always get a job and work hard and through perseverance they can move up and get a better apartment. In big cities I hear that cardboard boxes are rather popular. This saves on insurance policies. If they are paying rent they can move out. And after they age of 18 they should be treated as adults not teenagers, so kick them out unless they are trying to get a degree.
2007-01-22 06:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Molly Connoly 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Interesting question. I think this has a lot to do with cultural practices. Some cultures have grandparents, aunts/uncles, or children living with them and there is not problem. So, I guess it depends on what you are comfortable with and what you are used to. If it were up to me. . .if I had an adult son or daughter living with me who had a job, paid rent, helped out with chores and bills, and we each respected the other's privacy I think I would let them stay. But if that same son/daughter was a flake -out they go.
2007-01-22 07:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-22 07:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick them out when they're adults after graduating (or at least when they *should* have graduated).
If they are paying rent, you should treat them like an adult who has the right to enter into a contract.
2007-01-22 06:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not ever think parents should kick there kids out of the house, but mold them as they grow older to become responsible adults, and it could never be the childs fault if the child turns out to be a bum.
Bad parenting means Bad behaviour
2007-01-22 06:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Brie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋