Is there something wrong with a guy who stays on the internet until 3, 4, or 5am? It happens 5 outta 7 days a week. I feel so lonely....I wish we would cuddle sometimes, but that is rare. If anything I have to cuddle him. So why would a guy stay up late like this? He says he can't sleep.....but he doesn't even try....he always says he is tired, so what is up with him?
2007-01-22 06:23:22 · 41 answers · asked by Lana Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have our own computers.....I can't just go on his.
2007-01-22 06:28:30 · update #1
No he is 38 years old. I am in my early 20's.
2007-01-22 06:29:32 · update #2
he's not ready for a REAL relationship. maybe you should start thinking about what is going to happen when you get married. it doesn't get better, he'll just use another excuse.
you should put this marriage on hold until he decides if you are his wife or the WWW.
Best Wishes, you deserve better....stand up for your own personnel dignity!
2007-01-22 06:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on the internet chatting with other girls! Or worse, he might be on match.com! You better do some investigating. Ask him what he's doing. Go over an pull the plug from the computer!
He's almost 40 and you're in your early 20s and in bed alone? You better check, he may be chatting with other GUYS! Seriously, not normal. Find someone closer to your age, like 31.
2007-01-22 06:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own instincts. You know somethings up, and it's not good. I guess you could always ask what he does on the internet so late, and for so long. Or you could get out of bed at 4 o'clock and find out for yourself.
Is this the kind of relationship you want with a husband? Your already having trust issues. Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. Think it over before you say "I do".
2007-01-22 06:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Nezbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than this, do you think he's been acting... unusual or unlike himself?
Before you got engaged, has he been a computer addict?
Does he have a job that requires computers?
Ask yourself these questions.
Also, take time to have "alone time" with him. Say to him that you need a quick peptalk with him and ask him what's up!
He could be doing tons of things on the Internet: looking for a nice wedding spot, just chatting...
I can tell you're suspicious, and i wish you the best of luck!!!
I hope this helps, by the way!!!
2007-01-22 06:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Angelica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds sort of shady to me. If you are going to marry this guy, I would make him give up the some info. What is he doing up that late? Is he on the internet? Why can't he do it during the day? Maybe he is hiding something. Tell him it bothers you and you want to cuddle with him. Tell him you are going to marry him and you want an open relationship and to make compromises.
2007-01-22 06:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know what he's doing on the internet? if this is something that really bothers you, you should weigh out how important of a problem this is, because it's not going to just stop after you get married. have you tried to tell him that you want to do other things and that you want him in bed with you? let him know how bothered you are by it and that you want some of his attention. if he can't sleep, he should be prescribed something..doesn't this guy have a job that he needs to be at in the morning? make sure you fix all the problems that you have now before marriage..good luck!
2007-01-22 06:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by JKlein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you need to be concerned. It doesn't mean that he's necessarily cheating or anything, but something is going on to cause him to turn to the computer. Have you noticed changes in your relationship? Has he withdrawn...perhaps he's under a lot of pressure/stress right now. He may be turning to the computer as a release...or out of boredom. Regardless, you need to speak openly with him. Let him know that you are there for him to talk with. Talk openly about how this is affecting you and what you are missing as a result. Good luck!
2007-01-22 06:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by crystalbutterfly1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. has an online gf and talks to her
2. is a porn freak and does his pleasure in private
3. is still mentally a child and is playing games
4. no longer wants you and has no clue how to escape
Since you mentioned fiance.....I'd sell the computer. Cause if you think its bad now....it will only get worse and in under 2 years, if that long, you'll be going through divorce over this.
Seen this a THOUSAND times in all my yrs on the web.
2007-01-22 06:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are quite a few things it can be. But pretty much it is always PORN, he is either looking at porn sites or chatting with other women, and I do not mean friendly chat more than likely it sex talk. Sorry but usually that's what keeps people hooked to the internet way past their bedtime.
2007-01-22 06:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by ~V~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be porn... but he could also be playing some internet role playing game. Either way they both suck your life away. Talk to him about it, tell him he needs to spend more time away from the computer. If he doesn't you may have an issue. Do not marry him if this bothers you, or you will just remain miserable.
2007-01-22 06:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋