I have a freind who thinks his fiance is doubting him , so he wants to leave her... i didnt think this was the best way around it... i suggested he should talk to her , and now im outter ideas ... and need you suggestions please..
Thank you...
2007-01-22 06:23:15 · 17 answers · asked by Paki~Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
best answer wins.
2007-01-22 06:24:13 · update #1
I think those childrens are too young to get married.
2007-01-22 06:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Wurm™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to talk to her. People tend to look for the easy way out and they break up or divorce the person which causes so much heartache in the end. Every problem has a resolution, it's just a matter of the couple wanting to resolve the problem
He has to be willing to talk to her and ask why she is doubting him and she needs to be willing to open up to him with a full and honest answer. If they cannot open up and work things out like adults now, then they will never be able to and there will be many problems. He needs to learn to talk to her about problems rather than other people and perhaps she needs to learn the same.
On the other hand
She may have her reasons for doubting him, you may not know the full story, that may also be why he is so hasteful in wanting to leave her.
2007-01-22 06:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like he's looking for a reason to end the relationship. If a moment of possible doubt, which it sounds like he isn't even sure of, is enough for him to end the relationship then perhaps it's for the best.
It doesn't sound like he has the commitment to carry on a long term relationship. He "thinks" there is doubt. He won't talk to her about it. These are not the signs of a healthy relationship. There's too much pride and ego in play here.
2007-01-22 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest theres some areas thast outside people of the relationship shouldn't get involved in and this is certainly one of them. If he's made a descision etc it's up to them at the end of the day not you to come with more complications to bring in to it.And anyhow if he can't deal with it in the way you think he should then it just shows how stable there relationship was. STAY OUT OF IT! Or at the end of the day the blame will fall on you.
2007-01-26 03:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend has any doubts then he should sit down and have a good talk with her about his worries, they need to figure out what is making him doubt her. By the sounds of it he is scared and he is having doubts about himself not her. If he cant trust her now then there will always be doubts in his mind no matter how much he trys to hide it.
2007-01-22 21:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I doubted my fiance the first go around and I split and ran. Soon I realized that my life was with him. I came back crawling. This is something the two of them need to work out. Maybe over dinner at home. Not in public..it gets ugly. Maybe she will come clean and then again maybe he will just see he's paranoid.
2007-01-22 08:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a communication does not work, then what makes you think that it will in the long run. Both must put with each others mess and have an understanding. If that cannot be breach then it most likely won't work.
2007-01-22 06:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by tran21t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a good friend for wanting to clear things up for them. That's why people go to counselling sometimes...they just need a 3rd party to help out. He sounds kind of close-minded or isn't being truthful as for the reason he wants to leave her. Offer to both of them to do whatever they would like. It isn't fair that he just walks away from her without discussing it first.
2007-01-22 06:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is talk to her! without them both talking, he will never know and if he leaves her without answers he will feel 10 times worse!
She may just have jitters, rather than doubts, good luck :)
2007-01-22 06:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he only 'thinks' his fiance is doubting him then he can't love her very much if he wants to run at the first hurdle!! They need to talk calmly and rationally and then decide what they both want from this relationship.
2007-01-22 06:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by jaks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lack of communication is one of the leading causes of divorce. If he cannot speak to her now on any and all issues, then this marriage is doomed. Maybe one or both of them lack the maturity to enter a marriage at this time.
2007-01-22 06:32:32 · answer #11 · answered by busterdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋