My BF and I work blocks apart and commute together. Nearly every Friday he goes with co-ed co-workers to happy hour for hour or two. Has only invited me twice.
I get frustrated only occasionally (I don't feel compelled to go to every happy hour at my office- I prefer to be with my BF and don't need to add on extra time to hang out with co-workers I see all day), but have learned to respect the fact that he wants this...... (he has plenty on non-co-worker buddies).
Anyway, last Friday he called me at 4PM and said "meet you at 5PM ok". I said ok (i wanted to go earlier), but remembered about 5 minutes later I had to run an errand so tried to phone him back. He was not at work-- finally picked up his cell phone at 4:35 and was at a bar.
I asked why he did not mention he was going to Happy Hour and he flipped out and said it should not matter if he is at work or a bar as long as he meets me at specified time? I thought he was working and I think he should have mentioned?
2007-01-22 06:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by cathoratio 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do like to party. But with my friends not co-workers ..... and we have lots of friends.
And I think he could invite me to happy hours more often..... its not all guys anyway.
2007-01-22 06:29:10 · update #1
It sounds like he's being sneaky, and guys really aren't so good at that. Now you should ask him all the time what he's going to be doing, or when he's going to the bar. If he gets mad at you, then you know something is up. You should just show up to his little happy hour party unannounced. I bet you'll bust him trying to hit up on some girl.
2007-01-22 06:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f seems just like any other guy, if you want to know something, just ask. If you want to know where he's at, ask. But before you do, be sure you really want to know the answers, somethings are just not important.
I'd say, what's the purpose of you needing to know where he's at? Are you having concerns that he may drink too much or often? Or do you think there is some office thing going on with him and one of the female workers that is also going to happy hour each week? If so, talk about those topics and leave the "where are you" questions alone.
Good luck
2007-01-22 14:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by pico_pica81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it shows one of two things, you two aren't a good match, as he obviously likes to party more than you do, OR he's just not ready to be committed....face it, when you end up married, you pretty much have to be an open book if you want honesty and trust to flourish....so if he's hiding things now and getting bent out of shape, then maybe this is a big red flag to not go any further.
2007-01-22 14:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably dodn't occur to him one way or another to mention it. Remember he's your boyfriend, not your pet; you don't own him. If you have a problem with this, sit down and have a discussion about it---listen to his side and be sure he listens to your side. You'll either come to a reasonable compromise or realize that you both have irreconcilable differerences.
2007-01-22 14:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah one day call of work or leave early "sick" and pop in on him and see what the heck is goin on.
2007-01-22 14:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amber Vance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you're overreacting...give the guy the benefit of the doubt
2007-01-22 14:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Liya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋