I like to pay my own way but the guys I go out with refuse to let me pay for my drinks, entry cost to night clubs etc. I know most people will say I'm lucky but I'm very independent financially and would prefer to at least pay some of the time.
2007-01-22 06:14:26 · 27 answers · asked by Gaeriel C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This was just on one of those talk shows the other day. They said typically who ever has asked to go out should pay for the date. So if he asks you to go to a movie then he pays, if you ask him to go to dinner, you pay.
2007-01-22 06:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you drink?
Maybe the guy thinks if he's paying he can get you liquored up....
- Who-evers idea it was pays.
On a normal outing if it is more than $30-40 the girl should say I want to pay for this and the guy should let her. If the guy makes a lot more than the girl and wants to do something that costs a lot of money (he is an idiot) but he should pay and the girl should question whats with him wanting to spend the money... Is it the first, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th date or are you dating? If you are dating then you should pay your own way or make a point of paying every other time you go out except on special occasions when the guy should pay. If you are on a double date who ever grabs the check first (guy or girl) gets to pay for it. The other party (guy or girl) pays the next time...
2007-01-22 14:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bart H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past, men were the one's who earned the money and made the decisions in the relationship, so men paid for everything. Today, women and men both work and both make decisions, so why shouldn't the woman contribute?
Some people say this isn't romantic, and some men want to "take a woman out", so respect this and let him pay. In return, take him out sometime. Choose something you know he likes and invite him out, and tell him this is his special evening and you are treating him.
The rule should be that whoever asks the other person out should pay. It's nicer and more thoughful than trying to split a bill at the end of the evening.
2007-01-22 14:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your option, but I suggest you wait until at least the third date before offering to pay your own way. Traditionally the guy picks up the tab....but if you're in a relationship it might relieve the financial burden on your guy if you contributed. I admire your independent attitude which seems rare these days. You could purchase tickets for events you wanted to attend and contribute that way without the guy making a big deal out of it.
2007-01-22 14:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually the one that ask pays for the largest portion of the date, such as dinner. But in any case while on a date pay for something, like if he pays for dinner pay for coffee afterwards, or at club if he pays the cover pay for the first drinks ( don't ask just go to the bar and get him something). Men are trained to be the one to put out the money on dates, usually because their the ones to ask. We men are deathly afraid of appearing cheap.
2007-01-22 14:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Trevor L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't have to worry about asking mom for Movie Money you are doing great and are one step ahead of the game.
But in all honesty, I feel that if it would be nice to know that a lady is willing to pay her share or at the very least offer to leave the tip.
There are those who are asked out to a decent restaurant and then expect you to Order some Fine Champagne but when it comes time for them to invite out they want to go to the Macaroni Grill or something.
2007-01-22 14:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fastest one to the check usually pays...when I'm with my buddies, whoever gets their hands on the bill first takes it. Money ($100 bills at that!) has been torn in two when placed late! As for a girl/guy date, whoever has the most money on them...who cares. You can take it out in trade later, if you're worried about it!
2007-01-22 14:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My whole thing is that whom ever it was who asked for the date should pay....9 times out of 10 this will be the guy. But paying for things is in a guys nature. It comes down to our primal instincts of protecting and supporting you all.....plus it is a pride thing. Once you get past the pride thing the guy will be more reluctant to let you throw your own weight around.....
2007-01-22 14:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman should pay to make up for the hundreds of years that we men payed.
The man should pay because we still, unfairly, make more money, even for the same job.
I say, just whoever asks or flip a coin!
2007-01-22 14:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by parthenophilast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a date, I'm paying for you unless you insist. Then, I typically read too much into it and figure you're trying to say, "let's just be friends".
Going out as friends, you can pay your way. No problem with that.
2007-01-22 14:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋