Invitation etiquite?

Question

I am inviting some people I graduated with to my wedding. Do I need to put "and guest" on the envelope to let them know it's okay to bring someone?

I am putting my maid of honor's name on her invite so that she can save it as a keepsake, but I want her mom and little sister to feel welcome. Would it be okay to invite them via telephone before sending out the invitation?

Is not putting children's names on an invitation (inviting Suzanne and Richard Dean for example) good enough or do I need to put "adults only" on the invitation somewhere?

Thanks in advance for the help.

My MOH's little sis is fourteen. It's the children who aren't old enough (or well behaved enough) to sit down and be quiet for thirty minutes that I don't want there.

Answer 1

Most people have no ettiquette these days. What you're doing is correct "and guest". Usually address outside envelope to the invitee and on inside envelope put "Mary & Guest". The maid of honor is a great thing too. As far as no children, if you invite Mr & Mrs John Smith, then on the inside envelope it should read only John & Susan. They SHOULD take the hint, but like I said, most people do not. "adults only" is not considered tacky these days, but I would consider putting it on the reception R.S.V.P. and nOT on the actual invitation. Congrats.

Answer 2

You do have to put "and guest" or they will think it's a single invitation.

Do not do telephone invitations. Everyone should get a formal invitation.

If you are having an adults only reception, put that on the reception card. Otherwise, leaving their children's name off the envelope should be good enough. Be ready for some questions.

As for inviting your maid of honor's little sister, I see nothing wrong with inviting her and no other kids. You have your reasons.

Answer 3

Yes, you should put "and guest" if you are okay with them bringing a date.

For your maid of honor, that is very sweet, but her family will need their own invitation. You should send a separate one for her mom and little sister.

If you're letting your MOH's little sister come, is she going to be the only one? Technically, they shouldn't bring kids if it doesn't say the Richard Dean Family, but people don't follow those rules anymore. However, if it tacky to put adults only. Have you thought about a sitter?

Answer 4

Put "and guest" if you want them to bring one, think about whether there will be others they know and whether you have room for the numbers. Yeah separate invite for the maid of honours mom and sister.

At my wedding there were no children in my family to invite to the sit down reception - I was also limited for numbers - so in the "Plan of the day" I added a comment saying that children were invited in the evening, but apologised that due to numbers we could not invite them to the sit down. I would make it clear to your guests, you don't want a surprise on the day, or awkward conversations from people beforehand.

Answer 5

Its preferable to find out who your college friends will bring, and inlcude the name on the invitation. If they don't know who they plan on bringing, then "and guest" is fine, so they know they can bring a date.

Your MOH's sister and mother should receive their own invitations.

Not putting the children's names SHOULD be enough, but I wouldn't be surprised if you have some guests asking whether they can bring the kids anyway. Just make sure your mom/MIL/MOH know that its an adults only reception in case they get asked any questions about it.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with having an Adult only reception!! You can have that engraved in small print on the response card "Adult Only" or you can have on the respond card to have two guest printed or on the line you can pre-write in two so your single guest know that you are allowing them to bring a guest. If you want to include your MOH mmother and younger sister you need to send them a separate invitation address to the mother and the young child (i.e. Miss. Claudia Patterson or Master Steven Tropel)

Answer 7

I have seen many wedding invitations in my day... I have seen you are invited to an Adult Only reception, I have seen you are invited to a Non Smoking Reception, I have seen it all.

If your allowing your guests to bring a guest, then yes you should put And Guest

The names you put on your invitation are the invitees only.

Answer 8

do what u feel

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