I've been seeing a guy who is now 19, and I'm 15. Currently were just like friends with benefits, no sex of course. He never pressures me into anything the I'm not comfortable doing, which is great. But we both understand eachother and can talk about anything in the world. We have alot of fun together and there is idealy nothing bad about it so far. It has been going on for about 3 months now. I don't know what to do, and I've been wondering if I should just end it to save myself from any hurt. I often think about the age difference, and both of us know that I am very very mature for my age. He never would have guessed my age if I had not told him. I'm begining to really like him, and I don't know if I should get into something like that. SO any advice or personal experiences would be of great help.
Thank you.
2007-01-22 06:13:28 · 17 answers · asked by michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know 19 seems really old considering you are 15, and I am sure if one of my guy friends (i'm 18) said they were dating a 15 year old I would be cynical of the matter, but reading your side of the story makes it sound wonderful. I don't think the age should get in the way of how you feel about him. I know there is a chance you could get serious and get hurt, but that comes with any relationship. If this boy really matters to you, you should just take the chance and see what happens. Obviously if it has been going on for the 3 months, like you said, then it's getting to far to just turn back now. Imagine how that could effect him. Maybe you should just follow your heart. If you think it would be best to walk away without seeing what could have happened, then do that. But if you think that something could be spectacular with you two, let it happen. What you really should do is talk to him about what you think. Ask him what he wants, something serious or just something fun right now. Maybe hearing his side of the story would ease your mind about being with him or not. I'm sorry if I am not help, but I used to run away from every guy and I finally found somebody that helped me fall in love... when you find the right guy you should never let it slip away.
2007-01-22 06:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i imagine its positive yet reckoning on the state your in you would want to attend at the same time as it is composed of sex because he ought to and could( thinking what you've reported about ur father and mom) with statutory rape. yet except that i have self belief its positive. i'm 21 and performance been seeing a similar guy for years and he's 25. At your age is appears to be like a large deal yet once you become older u keep in mind that its no longer a large difference in any respect. PLUS adult adult males are some yrs in the back of besides LOL... that would purely be an opinion although. LOL properly good success
2016-10-15 22:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, in my opinion you need too find someone your on age cause it's no different from dating a 40 year . If he really likes you he can wait until you are of age right now you you do not need too get into a situation like this, lets just say it finally leads too sex you end up pregnant then hes goes too jail & you are left too care for the kid , your mom & dad or hurt & disappointed. You need too find someone your own age mentally & physcally right now . Sorry, don't mean too hurt you. But If I was your mom i would be having a fit . I have a Daughter she is now 23 yrs. old & I'm still very protective of her & shes married & has 2 kids of her own mothers never quit being mothers dads either their first prioty is too protect their children at whatever cost . I would get out now & if he waits & comes back when you or legal age . But if not you will be glad you done what you done .
Good Luck & Best Wishes
May GOD Bless You & Yours
2007-01-22 06:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me guess, he is not in college, the military, or in a career geared job. He probably works at a minimum wage dead end job just like the rest of his friends who are affraid to grow up and be a man. Men date women not girls. If they do it because they are incapable of dating girls their own age. Girls their age reject them because they are in dead end jobs, they have no life goals, or for whatever reason. This causes these guys to go after girls, because their expectations of them is different. Girls believe love will conquer all - no true. You will learn that as you get older. Plus do you really see him coming to Prom with you, whether or not that is important to you - you should get the drift. Yes, older guys can relate to you - just as any adult can relate to you given the right circumstances.
While in high school you should be having fun. I know it sucks, but there is too much life to live, don't waste it on any one boy right now. Work on goals that are NOT related to relationships - like where do you want to be when you are 30. Then develop a plan on how you are going to get there. Basically work out a plan on who you want to be.
2007-01-22 06:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by EB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the difference between 15 and 19 is pretty big and any sex between you two would constitute as statuatory rape. You have to ask yourself why a 19 year old is even messing with a 15 year old girl.
It's hard for you to see it that way but one day you will.
So be careful and dont do anything to mess up your life.
2007-01-22 06:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by michelle5196 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well in a relationship age dousnt really matter my moms4 years older than my dad but u still got to think of his age hes 19 your 15 u should wait a couple yrs to get together with him maybe he will wait for u just follow ur heart for this question
2007-01-22 06:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! I don't think it is okay for you to have a relationship with someone that is 4 1/2 years older than you when you are only 15 years old. You are still just a kid. You have your whole life to find that someone special to be with. Don't mistake this for true love. You are playing with fire and you are going to get burnt!
Does your parents know about this relationship?
2007-01-22 06:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by msmidnite 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey
It is against the law in most states for a young man over the age of 18 to date/be in a relationship with a girl under 16.
If your parents wanted to have him put in jail for dating you they could legally do this. It is called Statuatory Rape and he wouldn't even have to touch you to be arrested for it.
You are a minor under law, and protected, even if you don't want to be by state and federal laws.
he will not thank you IF he ends up in jail with a sexual offense on his record for life.
Anna
2007-01-22 06:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Og 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would like to tell you its all okay, but realistically i dont think so. Because I went through the same thing.I was 15 he was 20.we were together for a year and 1/2 and all was well until he turned 21. Then it was just obvious it wasnt going to work he wanted to go to bars with his friends, i couldnt go. i couldnt even go to his 21st birthday party. we had a lot of fun, but he was seeing girls his own age when he was out, and it just didnt work out.he cheated.So my only advice to you is to be careful and dont get to attached.if you guys like eachother and have fun, then if it works, great.but from my own experience, i would tell you to hang out with a guy closer to your age. good luck
2007-01-22 06:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you can do it. age is just a number. dont worry what other ppl or the "law" says...cuz love, and relationships arent about age...i mean once u turn 18, ppl stop lookin at age...really...my friend who is 19 is dating a 28 year old...its not uncommon....so yeah. go for it...and i date older guys too so yeah
2007-01-22 06:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by Liya J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋