What is an except-able way for a 4 year old to express anger?

Question

is it ok to sit in time out chair and Rowr? Is kicking feet on the floor to much? What is a good way to channel anger

Answer 1

My daughter recently had violent outbursts. I bought her a piano and now whenever she gets mad she sits at the stool and plays Beethoven. I try to encourage her anger by hiding her toys and her homework assignments.

Answer 2

Anger is a coping mechanism you adopted to deflect painful emotions. When someone triggers hurt and pain in a very specific way your automatic driver takes you down the anger road. It's a pattern or template that has been kicked into gear so many times that it just blasts off without will. This pattern/template was designed when you were little and has been perfected over the years. You can over-write the old template and make a new one. The next time you feel the anger is going to happen think about the emotion you felt just before it. Was it abandonment, injustice, physical pain, fear, abuse, and particular age and situation were you in when it happened? Now that you know where the original feeling started you can differentiate between now and then. You are safe now and you can change how you react because you are not 5 years old anymore. You are a young person of 14 and much more capable of speaking for yourself than you were at 5 or 7 years old. When you feel that same ugly hurt and pain you can stop and know that you are about to use the anger template and do something else instead. Write a script and say it instead.

Answer 3

The acceptable way for children to learn to express their anger is verbally. Eventually you want them to learn to talk about how they feel. Generally, the kicking and screaming is an attempt to get something. With my children, I never gave in to their tantrums. I'd stay calm and say, "I can see you wiggling on the floor there, and whatever it is you want, you aren't going to get it that way. As soon as you're ready to talk about it, I'll listen." When they were young, it would take a while for them to calm down but they would. Now that they are older, I only need to remind them how to express their anger appropriately, and they can do it. Be ready to listen without judgment to their feelings. Then work on a solution together. Kids need to feel some semblance of control over their lives. Remember, this is how they will have to deal with their anger as adults, so get them practicing now. And be patient. Kids forget....a lot. :)

Answer 4

I don't know that you can tell a 4 year old how to express their anger. If they do something that you find unexceptable, such as throwing things, etc, you need to sit them down and let them know that is not right, but you will just have to address each expression as it comes along.

Answer 5

Kicking his feet, punching a pillow and TALKING. Get the child to tell you how they are feeling, expressing ones anger in word will help him later in life, and learning to tell YOU what's going on will help the two of you communicate as he grows.

Answer 6

First, get them to sit down. Then, tell them to take a deep breath. After, ask them what's wrong. When they answer, try think about a solution while you distract them with a toy or video game so they'll forget that they're angry.

Answer 7

I have my son sit on the steps till he calms down, it works almost instantly. Sometimes if it doesnt work to sit on the steps I have him go to his room to calm down.

Answer 8

give him/her a gun to release his/her anger

Answer 9

hold their breath until they turn purple and pass out ...