Another girl likes my partner. Should I be worried?

Question

My boyfriend recently started a new job. As he's still training, he often has to work with someone else.

The other night, during a conversation, he admitted that one of the girls he works with likes him, and despite his mentioning me to her on a regular basis, she isn't really taking the hint to get lost. Apparantly, he was warned that she's a bit of a man eater.

I don't mind a little, light flirting in the workplace, but from what he told me, I got the impression she's quite forward. On one occasion, she asked him to excuse her because her bra strap came undone (how convienient). She then proceeded to take her top off in front of him. The same thing has happened to me before, and I know for a fact you don't have to remove your top entirly to fix the problem! He said he left the room and didn't see anything, and I believe him.

I trust my boyfriend, but i'm worried this girl won't take no for an answer and will keep trying to sink her claws into him.

What should I do?

I agree with you Fly girl. I was very nice to him when he told me. We have a very open and honest relationship. We just laughed about the situation, saying "silly cow".. Just, since then I started thinking about it a lot and have goten a little nervous. He's at work with her now, and i'm wondering what she's up to.. It's HER I don't trust.

Answer 1

try not to worry mate. he has told you which is a good sign! my bloke got asked for a 3some the other night by two girls,he laughed in their faces and replied "are you havin a laf,have you seen how fit mt girlfriend is!" im sure your man is doing exactly the same thing! ps,im not that self confident but i act like iam,men dont like a girl who is always jealous and moody.just remember he is with you.keep things exciting in all areas. good luck girlfriend.x

Answer 2

Ok....so your boyfriend says the office tramp has been blatantly hitting on him. On one hand, the fact that your boyfriend told you is a good thing. Because if he was truely interested in her he wouldn't have told you at all. However on the other hand the fact that she won't seem to take no for an answer mean that he hasn't been firm enough with her and let her know he isn't interested. His just bringing you up in conversation in no way convinces this woman that he is unavailable.

So I suggest two things. First your boyfriend needs to reinforce the fact that he is unavailable to his co-workers. He needs a picture of the two of you for his desk and he needs to tell the tramp that he doesn't want her, not just that he has a girlfriend. She could have a boyfriend too and think that your man would be the perfect one to have an office affair with.

Second....and you need to reinforce the fact that your boyfriend is unavailable to his co-workers. Arrange to take your boyfriend to lunch on your day off. Get dressed up extra cute and meet him at his job. Asked to be shown around and introduced to his coworkers. Then when he introduces you to the tramp look at her like she is unworthy of being in the same room as a women as beautiful as yourself (I don't care if she looks like a Victoria Secret Model). Then laugh and jokingly say, "Oh, so your the one who has been sexually harrassing my man. The ignore her and turn to your boyfriend and say, "Well baby your just so cute I see how that can bring the deperate out in some women." Then you and your man leave and have a nice lunch.

She will be embarrassed that your boyfriend told you about her antics and her whole office will begin discussing what a tramp she is if she continues to try to hit on him in the future.

Answer 3

Your boyfriend needs to file a complaint! This is sexual harassment and is against the law!
I would not worry about him if you trust him but that behavior needs to stop.
He should speak to her in a very direct and firm manor (not just mentioning you in conversation... unfortunately people like that don't take hints) and tell her that he has a girlfriend and he is not interested and that her actions are making him uncomfortable.
If this continues then he could sue the company, he needs to file a complaint with his employers. These things are taken very seriously due to the potential for legal action.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's playing you from some weird or twisted angle.I'm not sure if his motives are good or bad.Why would he even mention another girl's interest in him unless he's trying to make you jealous?.And is he really telling you the whole truth about the situation?,or is he leading you to believe one thing and really doing something quite different behind your back?.As Elmer Fudd once said: "There's something fishy going on around here".Your whole story raises more questions than it answers.I'd be very suspicious of the whole affair (And I place great emphasis on "affair").As the old saying goes "it takes two to tango".
What should you do? Don't be played,demand action to terminate this flirtatious time bomb before it blows up in your face.

Answer 5

Firstly, definately don't worry about it, your boyfriend clearly loves you.

This woman is a tart, if she really really won't take the hint tell him to tell her in a nasty way, women like that use their looks to get their hooks into blokes so tell him to say 'bog off you ugly troll' or something equally not nice!
She won't like the fact he doesn't fall at her feet like alot of other blokes do when confronted with a trollop like that!

You could also go meet him for lunch/after work and show to the world how much in love you are by planting a huge kiss on him when you meet and walking away hand in hand.

Answer 6

There are girls who flirt my boyfriend at his work too. I get jealous just like any normal girl would too. First thing I wanted to do was get her fired, punch her face, and get mad at my boyfriend. At least your boyfriend is being honest, which means you should trust him. Some girls are relentless and hit on guys with girlfriends to boost their ego. I trust my boyfriend to some degree and I have dismissed the whole idea. There are always going to be girls hitting on your man. Take it as a compliment that your boy is fine. Girls like that have no life, no boyfriend, and no morals. I would just accept it, but if your boyfriend starts to have late nights at work or start to lie then I would start to worry. Your guy seems to be open with you so I wouldn't worry. :)

Answer 7

What the hell is going on in your guys head!? Does he not realize the wonderful person he has already in front of him? I just cant believe he would even have the nerve to tell you that he likes another girl. Your supposed to be his one and only! It is ridiculous your guys a jerk im sorry to say that but he is. If you told him that you werent ok with him telling other girls he likes them he should respect your wishes. You should be careful you might end up getting hurt.

Answer 8

We girls know how vulnerable guys are and how easy it is to play them.

We know also, that even the most committed guy who loves his girlfriend with all his soul, is still a guy.

It's NOT your boyfriend's fault, so don't EVER make him feel like you blame him.

This girl is trying soooo hard to seduce him, it's not even funny. He should try to make comments to her in a joking, nice way that he's aware of her game. Usually if girls are called on it they get embarrassed and back off. He can say things like "Man, I know that you're trying to steal me away from _______ but I'm going to try and be strong. " Or "I know your super-man-stealing powers are on overdrive right now, but I think I can still resist you." He doesn't have to be the bad guy to let her know that he's not interested.

Whatever you do, don't confront her or act possessive or jealous around her. That will just make her want to challenge you. When (if) you meeet her, smile and say "Oh, yeah, this is that girl you were telling me all about." If she knows that you know about her and that you're not threatened, she'll back down. It's not fun when it's not a secret.

Answer 9

she sounds like a little tart who thinks that the more attached men she goes after the more attractive it makes her.

I dont think you have anything to worry about if you boyfriend is telling you all this straight away. It shows he isnt hiding anything.

Your boyfriend could report her to HR because she is acting very unproffessional and that would give her a short sharp shock.

Answer 10

I think you should talk to your bf and tell him if he feels so uncomfortable that he should tell the boss or someone else... to let her know that she is sexually harrassing him... its the same thing... some men might think he is a P-u-s-s-y but hey he is standing up for what he belives.. and that H-o needs to back off ... i say u show up someday out of nowhere and sock her!! on the face!!!