How can I move on?

Question

My boyfriend of almost a year and I broke up about 4 months ago. However, we continued to talk every day and see eachother on occasion (sometimes it was good and sometimes bad). We go to the same college and hang out with the same people so it is very difficult to avoid eachother. However, we don't really want to because we still love one another and can't NOT talk to eachother.


None the less... i can't drag this semi-relationship on for another semester. How can I work towards getting over him?

Answer 1

well i truly understand.... i highly recommend cut the talking,you will never fully move on if you talk to him every day, cut it to every other day then once a week and you can lower that if u like, but if you hang around the same people then you can talk then.... but cut the personal chat to once a week at least. Also let him know what you doing hopefully he will support you and understand that it's been 4 months and you still haven't moved on because of this and seeing as though you not going to get back together you have to let each other go. Also try your best to hang out with your friends when he is not invited, after a few more weeks start talking to new people that you know dont know him, so you can hang out with people who nothing about him or who wont bring him up or around, they can be just friends or someone you might like 2 date it's up to you... It really is a process and it starts with cutting the talking this also means IM and email it needs to be limited.

I'm really good at helping (one of the things im at school feel free to contact me for any other advice)

Answer 2

Wow! This has to be hard for both of you. I think you should find out if he is feeling this same semi-relationship issue as well. If he is and you want to work on it to possibly becoming a full relationship then right on. But, if it is not what you both want then I suggest some time getting to know other people. That is a great thing about college there are so many people available to get to know. Focus on school and fun that totally involves other people. Who knows, maybe mr. right is out there in another group! Good Luck!

Answer 3

STOP talking to him!!! That is the first step the more you talk to him the more you end up missing that person and what you did have. As for sharing friends, hang out with your friends you had BEFORE him, atleast for awhile. You need to almost detox yourself from him in order to be over him. Eventually you do find someone new and you do lose the feelings you once had, it's a long process but hang around other single people and ones that aren't going to "spy" for your old man that just makes drama. All i know is the saying "time heals all wounds" is VERY VERY true!

Answer 4

first off your gonna have 2 stop talking to him. Seeing that person, and talking to them on a semi-regular basis makes it rough to get over that person because it starts to stir up old feelings you have/had for that person. i know it's hard but when you do see him, hi and bye is sufficient enough. then you need to occupy your time. hang out with your friends, work-out, whatever you need to do that will keep you busy. and realize that he is not the only guy in the world, and there is a reason why you two are no longer together.

Answer 5

Okay! You need to attend our "Back To The Basics" Course. It's free! And it's right Now! Love isn't about control, power or ownership. It's about satisfying the Old Ticker. Keeping the Blood flowing.To allow you to be happy, healthy, and able to carry on. If you was in it, so you wouldn't be alone?( I'm guessing) You weren't suppose to be there, in the first place. Listen to your Heart. It wants you happy. It can only survive if you're happy.It goes to show that Your Heart would know what was best for you.
If it was based on Sex, Drugs, or Rock-n-Roll. It was bound to fall apart soon enough. Give your Heart a Look-see. Let me know!

Answer 6

well my friend is in the same situation, and ive been by her side everyday, going to her house to make sure shes okay, going out, gettin her mind off things, her family is there to support her, and she has other great friends. but keep up movin on, start flirting with new guys, and even though you guys had a long relationship, you can love more than once. dont hold onto something that isnt holding onto you the way u want it to...soo let go, bceause the time does heal, and not hearin from him would make you better. it mdae my friend better

Answer 7

Go to him, have him sit down and discuss about how you feel since you guys broke up and you will need to have his friendship again and make him stop interesting in you. Also maybe u guys can make deals like you go ahead find a guy and he go ahead find a girl and once it might be work, who knows. Good luck.

Answer 8

One way is to avoid seeing him and hang out with your friends and do your own things...Make him realize that you have moved on and your life is better without him.....

Find new friends and new people to hang out with..Maybe this is also another good bet for you...

Answer 9

Do new things go with your friends, worri more about school and try not to talk to him as much because if you guys can't talk then it will never work. don't just jump in to any relation ship tho remember what you have learned from this last relation ship. use your brains

Answer 10

Out of site, out of mind! Try not to hang out where you know he'll be. This is your time for self-healing, confidence and a peace of mind. Also don't call him or accept his calls. Stay stong you'll get over it. Trust me. Been there Done that. : )