have u had a long distance relationship?

Question

me and my boyfriend live 2 hours drive apart and im finding it so hard cos i miss him so much, we get to see each other once every 1-2 wks.
r u in a long distance relationship? how do u cope?

Answer 1

Laura like yourself my fiance and I are and have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years now. We live 2.5 hours apart and spend each weekend together. We also talk on the phone nightly and often will send each other e-mails just to let the other know that we are thinking of them and/or that we love one and other. Trust, communication and faith in your partner are very important items in any relationship but especially so in long distance relationships. Like yourself also we often miss one and other but like the old adage goes "absence makes the heart grow fonder" it is well worth it when we do get to spend time together. Best of luck in your relationship.

Answer 2

Hi, my and my Bf met on yahoo personals, so we have always been in a long distance relationship, and we've been togther nearly a year next month. He lives about an hour and a half drive away ( 2 1/2 to 3 hours away if i have to do on the train)

At one point i was seeing him for two days a week every week, which was great. Now however with his work and me being at uni i only get to see him for a couple of days at a time, and it can be weeks even months before we see each other.

It is hard, but you find ways of dealing with it. For us we talk online as often as we can (often hours a day), he calls me every night when he gets into bed. I've pinched one of his tops which i wear to bed when i miss him, i left one of my nighties at his (No he doesn't wear it, but it's there to remind him of me)

The main thing you need is good communication (not just talking regularly, but actually telling each other how you are feeling) and trust. I mean i know it's different for everyone and it depends on each persons situation, but i trust him completely (part of that being he's working on a business with his dad so he has little time to go out getting drunk and pull some other girl.)

If you are with the right person then distance means nothing, i know that my bf wants to be with me, he wouldn't put up with the distance and my mood swings just for sex every once in a while.

Answer 3

I dont think anyone WANTS to have a long distance relationship. Life happens and gets in the way, you just have to work around it. If someone wants to be with their long distance BF or GF enough/or they love them enough, they will move to where the other person is and quit the long distance thing. Those people who have relationships over the internet or out of state "just because" are probably wasting their time. Long distance relationships wont last if there isnt commitment.

Answer 4

yep i am in a long distance relationship as well. im in a relationship with my gf for one year and we sometimes see each other once a month!!!!!!!!!!!! she is super sweet and i adore her and that is why i keep fighting this anguish of missing her so much so things will end up great. my relationship is even harder because her mom doesn't let me see her, visit her, or go out with her, and even talk on the phone because she thinks that is wrong. we love each other a lot and we both suffer equally. we know the consequences of long distance, but in the end is very healthy for the relationship because you both have space and it helps to build trust and by missing them you know how much you truly love them and how concrete is the relationship. if you think is worth the wait then go ahead with missing and loving even more. because is obvious that when you are together again it will be more passionate when you meet. i am happy with my relationship and dont regret the distance because my love for her grows every day that we are apart and when we are close is truly amazing the love that you can give and receive. hope i can help.

Answer 5

Wow.....every 1-2 weeks is rough. I live in LA and when my man and I started dating he was living in Monterey a 6 hour drive away. We talked every night and some how managed to make time to see eachother every 2 weeks or so and we spent the weekend together. Then he moved to San Diego so it became a 2 hour realtionship. We then found ways to see eachother every weekend, taking the train was the best for us because you don't sit in traffic and you can do homework or work while you travel. It does take a LOT of work to keep it going but if you're in it for the long haul being apart really will strengthen your relationship and helps you value the time you do have with your loved one. Missing someone is hard but try to find ways to see eachother more if it's really worth it!

Answer 6

me and my fiance have been together over 2yrs and r in a long distance relationship b/c he is in med. school and i am finishing up my B.A in NYC. It is hard to b in a long distance relationship but it is worth it b/c u r with someone u love and working toward a life together... most importantly u need to trust each other b/c w/out trust any relationship will fall apart, communicate ur problems and set up a talking schedule (u can also set up web cams to c each other)...even though its hard at the end of the day i know that the only person i want to b w/ is him...

Answer 7

It is very hard to cope. My man and I live 2 1/2 - 3 hours apart but somehow, some way we make it work. We try to keep our space (if that makes sense in a LDR). He keeps busy when we can't see each other, and I try to keep busy, and we try not to talk on the phone so much, because we argue about missing each other and needing to see each other. And then sometimes we will just have so much to talk about and spend about 2 hours on the phone. You just have to keep your space and keep busy, and be faithful, and have trust.

Answer 8

I've been in a long distance relationship for nearly 4 years because I got to school 3 hours away from my b/f...Altogether we've been dating for almost 5 years and we're engaged now. I only get to see him for one day every two weeks. It sucks, but I just make sure we talk everyday and all that... and I'm almost finished with school so I'll be moving back home with him...

Answer 9

darlin' i met my girl im malaysia i'm in canada, i'm certain if i dug straight down i would've ended up in her living room and we did this for a year. the only reason i have to give you that made us work is that she to me was what i wanted, well that and a headset a web cam, skype and some imagination. every relationship is a risk it doesn't matter whether it's right beside you, 2 hours away or across the planet what matters is the person everything else is just details. hey right now she's staying with on an extended stay in canada so far so good good luck

Answer 10

was in one when i was 17. I used to love looking forward to getting letters and phone calls off of him. We stopped speaking for a while because i was involved with an **** before i met him and people pressured me to get back with the one that lived near me because he put on a lovely front to everbody else other than me. I was young and stupid and did what everbody wanted me to do. We got back in touch when i was 19 he moved near me but i messed up again because i was still young and stupid.

But i still keep his letters etc and he's the only one ive ever done that for. first cut is the deepest and all that. So it might be hard work but dont let go, do stupid little romantic things for each others (letters, emails etc) and make time to see each other and dont let anyone tell you long distance relationships dont work because they have never been in your relationship.

good luck x