My boyfriend and myself have been dating for a while now. He doesnt seem to lie good. But sometimes its hard for me to tell. Lets just say he has sticky fingers, took something of mine before, and others here and there. He has lied to me before about how many girls he had been with. When we first started dating it was one. Now its like 3 other girls... I trip him up a lot. THats the only way I can get the truth. Sooo... A while back he gave me his pass code to his voicemail. And so lastnight I was up late I had been feeling upset all day with him. So I checked his voicemail. I dont normally do this, Something just didnt feel right.
A girls voice was on his saved messages. She said " hellooo" flirty like, I know a helloo is much to go on here, but it is for me. Never heard that voice before. He dont have any girlfriends, never has... lol
Lastnight there was a piece of paper with numbers on it with no names....
Girls what would you do to figure this out?
Suggestions?
2007-01-22 05:56:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is a guy - let him have fun ,, i have sex with other girls and my gf doesn't know , but i still love her - i hope this helps you
2007-01-22 06:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you cant really tell here. The fact that he lies to you is not good. But you never know maybe he have a problem like that that he have to lie to everyone, not just you. When it comes to flirty hello word....i mean was there more then just hello.....and why would he send junk like just hello word message on his phone anyways. Probably some spam anyways. I wouldnt believe anything or make asumptions. Dont get in his voicemail again though unless he let you listen to it. You might have bigger problems once he knows you snoopin around. Just talk to him. Now when it comes to blank papers you never know they might be work related. What you can do is call from pay phone or block a number and see if a female picks up or it would be a regular company greeting like 'Hi this is Blah Co. Amelie speaking...how can i help you?' type of thing then there is nothing too much to worry about.
2007-01-22 06:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've sort of been in your same situation. I read (as opposed to heard) things that my bf wouldn't have wanted me to.
First of all, you are with a guy that lies. That is very obvious in the fact that he wasn't truthful with how many girls he had been with. This is showing me that he is very immature.
The "helloooo" message that you heard should have been accompanied by a phone number. Is it stored in his phone? If you can get it, call the number and withhold your number so it doesn't come up on their caller i.d. Maybe their voicemail will pick up and you'll find out who it is...? Aside from talking to your boyfriend, which probably won't do any good because of his lying, keep checking his voicemail, placed calls, received calls, text messages, EVERYthing. Go through his contacts, look at what time calls are received. Are they late at night or when you are not around? And now, if you are actually considering doing these things, dump your boyfriend because obviously if you are willing to do these things then there is no trust in your relationship and you shouldn't be with him. You are itching to find some sort of info to tell you that your boyfriend is cheating on you. This is not a healthy relationship. You sound like a great girl. You need a man who will dedicate himself to YOU. Liars will always be liars.
2007-01-22 06:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jensies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether its true that he is cheating on you or not it doesnt matter cause the trust is not there. You cant sit there and be wondering or questioning if what he is saying is the truth or not. You'll drive yourself crazy. If you think he is lying your probably right. Eventhough you have been dating for a while its still not a healthy relationship and it doesnt seem that there is much future there. When I first met my boyfriend he did lie about some stuff but i made it clear i wasnt going to be with a liar and because he really loves me he has stopped. Unfortunately your boyrfriend doesnt seem to care that much becasue he continues to lie and is apparently is giving out his number to other girls. I suggest you break up with him before he breaks your heart. When you find a good man you wont have to trip up on him AT ALL.
2007-01-22 06:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lisette G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you said you don't normally check his voicemail, but I think I know where you've been, and so have I. When there is a mistrust in a relationship, it's hard to go on like nothing has ever happened. Be firm with him. Just say, I'm committing myself 100% to this relationship and try to make it work, I expect you to do the same. If you're messing around, then let's not waste any more time.
2007-01-22 06:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are this worried you probably know the truth. Most times your guy doesnt lie about things like this, it's almost like a gift women have been given to know when things are just not right and a gift women in love and in a relationship tend to try and ignore. My suggestion is let him go....no guy ever admits he is cheating so its no use asking. I would say call the numbers and see, I did it and my man was cheating, so if a woman is on the other end of the number ditch the dude....but make sure you block your number before you call. Good luck!
2007-01-22 06:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect he is cheating on you and have found some evidence that supports what you are thinking....then he is probably cheating on you! I was in a relationship several years ago with a man who cheated on me all the time. I saw the writing on the wall but did not want to believe it. It took me a few years but I finally got up the courage to leave him and haven't looked back since. Women do not deserve to stay with a man who is cheating on them. There are too many other men out there that will be faithful! I'd say get rid of him.
2007-01-22 06:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he lies to you at all why are you still with him? You can't have a true relationship without truth and if someone lies to you then 9 times out of 10 they will steal from you. So far I've found this line to be 100% true.
2007-01-22 06:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
msn yellow pages- reverse phone look up - doesnt help with cells though.
or call them at like 5 in the morning so you get the voice mail and see who it is.
My ex was talking to his ex. I kicked him out. I also checked his voicemail.
id ask your dude upfront who is it. And you d like to meet her if shes just a friend. And be friends with her.
It wasnt much for me to go on either - my dudes ex was jsut callling. But the part that got me was we have been together for a while and he just got a new cell and she got the #. Cause he gave it to her.
What is he doing hanging out with her if im supposed to be the only girl?
I just let him go, me him and her could not work in a relationship.
Me or other girls.
2007-01-22 06:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the numbers up, be honest and friendly and just be outright with it, ask them if they've been seeing him, talking with him, hooking up with him, etc.
I would end it, it doesn't sound like he's at all trustworthy hun. I know, it's easier said than done but I would cut all ties with this man. You'll be better off in the long run.
2007-01-22 06:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. First off follow your heart and i know its hard. but if u you now a guys cheated on you break up with his ***, don't be his door mate.ask him straigght up. Find your self a better man, theres tons of them out there. You deserve a real man. if hes cheatin on you then he doesnt care about you hes just using you.
2007-01-22 06:04:45 · answer #11 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋