my two year old sleeps in the bed with me and i juswt found out i am having number two. how do i get her to sleep on her own. She has been sleeping with me evr since she can home from the hospital. I don't what 2 babies in the bed with me. I have tried to let her cry it out but she cries for an hour and then makes herself trow up so i will pick her up. i feel like a bad mom letting her cry Help Please!!!!!!
2007-01-22 05:48:58 · 13 answers · asked by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have tried laying on the floor next to her and she just pulls my hair trying to pull me on her toddler bed. i have tried putting her in the bed after she is sleep and she stay a sleep for like 5 mins and wakes up screaming mommy. help i feel like a bad mom
2007-01-22 05:58:04 · update #1
You have to let her cry it out and you cannot give in . If you let her cry for an hour and then give in, then you will have to wait at least an hour the next time and then add more time to it. She will test you and it will be very difficult. But this is necessary for her to become independent as well. Make her bed an inviting place and add music and read books before bed to add to the comfort for her. But when it all gets crazy, you have to remember that it's a fight you have to win. If she gets out of bed calmly put her back in it even if you have to do this 100's of times. Lying down with her for a few minutes can be good, but don't wait until she falls asleep because this will make it worse for her and she won't want to go to sleep and then that would mean you'll be gone as soon as she colses her eyes. She has to learn to so this by herself and she is capable and able to do this. Be strong, don't give in. Seriously it is worth it! Good luck momma.
2007-01-22 05:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your baby sleep in the bed with you from the beginning. If you want your baby to be close to you get a bassinet and put it beside your bed. You also take a risk of rolling over on the baby or it smothering in your blankets. Resulting in SIDS, you might be putting a strain on your boyfriend or husbands sex life ( if your better half lives with you) by having a child in the bed with you all the time. As for your 2 year old. Explain to her that she is a big girl now and big girls should have a big girl bed. Buy her a special bed or buy her new bed covers like barbie or something she is into. Read her a bed time story in her new big girl bed before she goes to sleep. Have a set time for her to go to bed. She still might cry but don't go back in her room. She will fall asleep and get use to her new sleeping arrangements.If she keeps getting up pick her up and put her back in her bed.Its important not to talk to her because if you do she will use this as a way of getting your attention. If you don't talk to her and just put her in a bed in her room she wont understand why you are doing this to her,and if you tell her its because of the new baby then she is going to think you love the new baby more than her and be jealous. Dont put a t.v. in her room and turn it on for her to go to sleep by,because it is a proven fact that t.v. stimulates the mind there for making it hard for a child to go to sleep. You can put her a little night light in her room so she wont be scaed of the dark though. Iam interested in what advise you chose to take and what worked for your child, so if you will can you let me know and send me an e-mail at saphire732003@yahoo.com
2007-01-22 06:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by saphire732003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY have another baby. You seem like you're in the perfect place in your life where having a baby would just be the right thing to do. You're 15, you're so old enough, and 7 kids is never enough for a young person. I think 10 is the best number of children to mother at the age of 15! EDIT: If you FIRST got pregnant in 2006. Its virtually impossible to have 5 pregnancies in the space of under 3 years.
2016-05-23 21:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sleeping in her room for a few nights. (i know this is uncomfortable to you but you have to get her to feel safe in her own room before she wants to sleep in there.)
Buy a little night lite (like those ones that make ocean noises or reflect lights on the ceiling.) after a few nights of you being in there start sneaking out in the middle of the night to sleep in you own bed. also you can surround her with stuff animals and toys that she is really attached to. if you have a pet such as a cat or dog you can have them sleep in the room with her as well. as long as she feels someone is there for her she should be fine.
if she does cry though you really need to leave her (unless she is vomiting) this will teach her that mom is not going to give in to her, this is something big girls do and she needs to be a big girl since she is getting a new little sister.
2007-01-22 06:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lie in her bed with her until she falls asleep - it may be crowded (hopfully she at least has a toddler bed) - but that should work. Another solution would be to get a blow up mattress (twin size) and put it on the floor in her room and "camp out". Once she falls asleep - put her in her own bed. Maybe sleep a few nights in her room with her and then gradually move to your own.
2007-01-22 05:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by cfisher4234 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my 3 year old daughter. even though it may be painful you have to stick it out. just make her feel like its an accomplishment every time she goes to bed in her own room by her self. use the reward system. or if all else fails make a spot the floor for her with a sleeping bag.and when she falls asleep carry her to her own bed. it will take time but she will eventually get over it.
2007-01-22 06:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by micheljames2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you have your second baby with her in your bed?.....lol just kidding.
Do what the 4234 lady said. Take her to another room, sleep with her, and come out whe shes asleep. Keep the doors open so that you can hear her if she wakes up. And dont give into her stubbornness. Rather make her understand that shes growing up and should start to learn to sleep alone.
2007-01-22 05:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m going to suggest that you get her her own bed in your room that you move further and further away from your bed until you put her in her own room. Then, once she’s in her own room start sitting in her room with her until she falls asleep and then moving closer to the door every night until you are not in the room and she can go to sleep on her own.
Good luck – it won’t be easy and I’m guessing that it will take a bout a month to get her to sleep peacefully in her own bad. You’re going to have to be very firm and don’t give in. It will get better surprisingly fast if you stick to your guns!
2007-01-22 06:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i had a similar problem so what i did was i laid down in my son's bed with him and waited until he fell asleep once he was asleep i was free to leave. It might also help to play some soothing music with a dim light on. i also gave my son a warm bottle of milk. I hope this helps!
Congratulations on the new baby.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-22 05:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound bad - but it worked for me. Put a tv with a dvd palyer in her room with her favorite show, movie, etc. and turn it off after she has fallen asleep. I did this with my daughter. Good luck!
2007-01-22 05:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by kelbean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋