MY BOYFRIEND NEVER GOES OUT, SO THIS WEEKEND WAS HIS BEST FRIEND BIRTHDAY PARTY. NOW WE HAVE BEEN LIVING TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS AND HE HAS NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE. I DON'T WANT TO ASSUME THAT HE IS CHEATING BUT WHAT ELSE ARE YOU OUT UNTIL 7:30AM DOING.... PLEASE HELP.
2007-01-22 05:46:34 · 30 answers · asked by LESLIE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it. It was a 1-time deal at a party.
If he does it again, there's a problem. He did it 1 time. Move on.
2007-01-22 05:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should ask him why he didn't get home until 7:30am. He should have at least called you, that would have been the responsible thing to do. Especially if he has never done something like this before. You have every reason to be worried about him, if only for the reason that he didn't come home that night and didn't call you to tell you he'd be really late.
I wouldn't call him a cheater right now, because you don't know yet exactly what he was doing. Talk to him about it, but don't come out and accuse him. That will only cause problems, and make you feel really bad if he didn't do anything wrong.
2007-01-22 05:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jensies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably passed out somewhere! I don't know if he's cheating.
He might have cheatED, maybe the 1st time. If so, you need to make it the last time. DUMP HIM! Don't put up with that crap. If he wants something else let him have it. He is not the 1 for you, and obviously you are not the 1 for him. I'm sorry to be so blunt. I know it's hard to feel that way. Even if you "forgive and forget", you will never truly forget and it will destroy you. No man is worth it, no matter how long you have been together. Do some investigating, eventually you WILL find out. Manipulate his freinds a little and trick them into telling you the truth. If he wasn't cheating, make sure he knows that it will NEVER happen again and you are NOT ok w/it! If he doesnt get it....sweet sweet revenge, Do it to him and see how he likes it! I hope this helps and things get better for you.
2007-01-22 05:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You women seriously need to relax. Maybe he was a little drunk and rather than drive home like that, he slept it off.
What did he tell you he was doing until 7:30 am? If you don't believe his answer, then there is no trust. And without trust, you don't have a good relationship.
Stop the rediculous talk about laying down the law, or that he's automatically cheating. Do you think after 3 years of watching you type in all CAPS he's earned a night out?
2007-01-22 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leslie hopefully he was just a little tipsy and spent the night at a buddies place rather then getting behind the wheel of his car. You'd have been more angry if he had drove himself while bombed I would imagine. Best way to find out what happened is to approach him in a non-threatening way and let him know that you want to talk. Then communicate to him how your feeling and the thoughts that are running through your head. Hopefully he'll be able to put your mind at ease and once you've gotten over your anger a bit the pair of you will be able to laugh at this situation. If he never goes out with his buddies be grateful as lots of other ladies have to concern themselves with their men almost living in the bars. To me he sounds like a pretty reasonable and responsible guy if you've been with him for 4 years and this is the first time he messed up a bit. Please do confront him on it in a mature and open form of communication and help settle any insecurities and/or misconceptions that may be bothering you. Best of luck.
2007-01-22 05:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend went to a birthday party for his best friend and has been completely monagamous the entire time. Assuming he was cheating is not exactly sound : if they were drinking, it is probable that he was being responsible enough to sleep off the booze rather than come home wasted. Talk to his best friend and anyone else you know of that was there, and more importantly talk to him about it. Outright accusing him of cheating with only the details you provided here isn't sufficient. Levelling the accusation - if you are wrong - proves you do not really trust him, or have significant issues of jealously and/or abandonment...
2007-01-22 05:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was drinking a lot and just decided that he should not drive home! That would be the responsible thing to do.
Talk to him about it and tell him that you were worried about him because he has never done this before and that in the future, you would like it if he would call you and let you know that he is not coming home so that you will not worry.
I would not make assumptions... just ask him about his night without accusing him of anything.
2007-01-22 05:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust him to tell you the truth and ask him what happened the other night. If you feel he is lying check his pants while doing laundry because I found condoms in the pockets of my bfs pants and we haven't used condoms since the first time we had sex. You will notice little things that let you know whether he is cheating on you or not. Don't confront him angry or he will just get defensive and leave. Just try to be calm and just say you didn't feel comfortable because you didn't know if he was okay or what. You will know what to do when you have the convo with him.
2007-01-22 05:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first time, then cut him some slack. He probably passed out somewhere. You do need to talk to him, and explain that you're uncomfortable with this ever happening again. A simple phone call would have alleviated a lot. Now that he knows how much this bothers you, and he's a sensitive person, hopefully he won't do this again. Good luck.
2007-01-22 05:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt mean he is cheating but if he has never dont this before you may want to ask him what prompted his change in behavior. Where did he say he was? Just watch for the signs...text messaging, he will keep his cell with him like it is part of his bdy, it will always be on silent, checking email constantly.....hope it is just a night out and nothing for you to worry about.
2007-01-22 05:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by PrBela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's doing community service. You're incredible. The guy's only been out once and had a good time and you wanna castrate him. After all he's been through, you should give him at least 1 night out and not question what he did.
If you continue to nag and worry about this, he may not come home next time.
2007-01-22 05:51:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋