I am a single mother, I am 22. I am lonley without a decent man. I have a great job BUT alot of crap has been happening to me latley letme explain simply.... 475 a month rent, 95 bucks a week for daycare, in the past week I have lost my car keys, my drivers liscence, and my cashed paycheck (about 600 bucks). I have been having problems with my babby daddy wanting to get back with me AND my daughter is in the terrible twos terribly bad. My babby daddy came in the house last nite with a Playstation 3 and my babies daycare hasnt been paid in 3 weeks b/c I absolutley do not have any money, and he doesnt see why it upsets me. Then to top it off I got up this morning, it is cold and rainy and I fall down the front steps of my house and get in my car that has a dead battery making me two hours late to work. I feel like God is angry with me or like the worst mother alive because I am soooooo broke. I dont go out and blow my money on ANYTHING. Please help me, I am SO SAD.
2007-01-22 05:46:15 · 26 answers · asked by Kamryn's Mommie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to say I have read EVERY answer on here and it made me cry. To know there are people out there feeling the same way as me and reaching out to me without even knowing who I am. It is very comforting. It is also ALL great advice. Thank you SO much.
2007-01-22 06:07:03 · update #1
Life on lifes terms that what we call it where i work.There are some things you needs to do that will help you in the long run 1st get rid of the loser before he causes you more pain. He probley took your paycheck and spent it on drugs.
There are lots of good men out here who would love to be a father to your child. GOD nevers turnes his back on us ,its times like these that he is with us the most GOOD LUCK
2007-01-22 06:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by lawson403 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I have a son named Kameron(4) and 9 month old twins. I'm in your same situation. As a matter of fact, we have to find a new place to live and I only have 2 weeks. Money is always tight, bills are always behind, and with 3 kids--there's always a problem. Most recently-HEAD LICE! I had to shave my 4 year old's head and now I'm dealing with my own hair which is very long. Here's how I deal, and it may sound simple and stupid, but I sit myself down for 5 minutes or wait until that few minutes of peace a mom gets right before you fall asleep, and I honestly count my blessings. example: there are parents out there that spend their lives sitting in hospitals watching over their child with Leukemia. There are people who won't eat tonight or will sleep on a sewer grate. It doesn't fix my problems, but it does help me fight thru another day. Maybe it sounds mean that I lay there and visualize everyone worse off then me, but it definitely reminds me of the blessings in my life when I'm having a bad day. You have to believe things will get better. No matter what God you believe in....remember, that he'll never give you more than you can handle---even if you disagree:) take care.....hang in.....you're not alone
2007-01-22 14:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel HUNNY I am 20 with 3 babies all by the same dad and he dont have a job at the momment so im doin it alone, I guess as women this is the life we have to live(hints the reason we have to carry babbies and give birth) Men couldnt handle it. He is all about himself if he gave a damn he would be busting his rump to make sure your daycare was payed for HIS child also. Take his butt to court and DO NOT go back to him. My kids are 3, 2 and 6 months old, your 2 year old is acting out well because she can, to kids her age thats how they learn. If she gets a reaction out of you no matter what kind angry sad, happy she will keep on cause it got your attention next time she starts acting out, sit down and try to play with her, give her something to do to keep her calm. Not trying to tell ya what to do, just giving some advise from one mommy to another
2007-01-22 13:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Amber Vance 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awww...don't be sad. It is going to be alright. You are going through a VERY bad time right now but things will change for the better. Could you try to find a private person to sit with your children? I am paying $174.00 a week (!!) for my baby in daycare...I know how bad it is. I heard that private sitters sometimes cost less...maybe a "Grandma" that needs a few dollars on top of her pension or something? Have a talk with your baby-daddy and calmly explain to him about priorities. God is not angry with you - he might be putting you through hard times so that you can appreciate better times more later on. God helps those who help themselves. You are NOT a bad mother....if you were a bad mother you wouldn't be concerned! That right there shows me that you care and that you try to be a good provider. Maybe you could do some extra work from home?
Whatever it is you decide to do...don't ever be too proud to ask family and friends for help....we all have been where you are right now at one point in time...ask for help!
2007-01-22 13:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Be gratefull that you have a good job to go to everyday and that you have a healthy darling baby girl at home.
Everyone goes thru this. I am 28 years old and finally feeling like I have it together.
Just hang tight.
You are not the worst mother alive and God is not angry with you. You are just having bad luck.
Ask your daughter's dad if he can give you some money to help with daycare. I am guessing that he isn't regularly paying child support.
It will get better.
I bet you can get some good money on Ebay for selling the Playstation!
2007-01-22 13:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had $10,000 to give away to you. People just like you are struggling everyday just to make ends meet, while others with more than enough still find things to whine about.
It sounds like you are trying to do all the right things, please just stick with it. Try to focus on the positive, like your beautiful baby. Not everyone is blessed with a baby (like me!!)!!
I decided a long time ago, that when I no longer have to work, I will watch babies whose moms can't afford day care.
Oh, I hope your babby daddy is paying child support.
2007-01-22 13:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just becuase your broke doesn't make you a bad mum, money has nothing to do with a mother child relationship as far as a child can see. i try and find some cheaper baby sitting, and yea i know how it feels when it all goes wrong, it seems to happen to me frequently, but you have to see the good in it, and im sure its your kids in this case, let them be your motivation. just try and take some steps to reduce your outgoings. it might be good for you to have some "me time" just you. you don't have to go out anywhere fancy, just some where you like to be maybe let daddy take the kids for a while just relax, it will seem a lot better.
good luck
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2007-01-22 13:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't complicated really.....you just have to have faith. God doesn't give you anything you can't handle.
I remember some of my darkest moments, however, I waited and things did get better. For example, I was unemployed for a year and then Hurricane Katrina came and I had to evacuate with only $50 to my name. I was able to get a great job and now things are terrific.
Now I'm not a religious nut, but I do believe that God was looking out for me because things happened the way they were "supposed" to.
So, overall, keep your chin up because times will get better and you'll look back and think God was looking out for you.
2007-01-22 13:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont be hard on yourself.
All the living we do is hard and you have to take take for youself. You baby daddy has to go! If he is going to misuse money so terribly to drop 600 for a PS3 (for the best version) or 400 for the cheaper version either way that money should have gone to his children first.
You just need a hug and if i was there I would give you a hug, but i cant so you have to hug yourself and remember you are doign the best you can. And as crappy as it is now it could be worse so just be thankful and take care of yourself.
gstolard@gmail.com if you want an email buddy my heart goes out to you, so be good to you and your baby :)
2007-01-22 13:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by gstolard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get The Father of your Baby, to stepup. If he doesn't? Let The Law show him how to. Kids, who become Parents. Will ALWAYS do stupid crap. Learn from your mistakes. Give GOD, HIS Praise for allowing you Life and Children. And fix the problem! Being angry, isn't gonna do Your Baby, a bit of good. Hand outs, are not a exceptable way of learning from mistakes. I pray for your happiness and inner Peace.
2007-01-22 13:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋