When do you forget and forgive and when do you fight back and take revenge?
2007-01-22 05:44:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Lets be realistic here. I have never met a person that doesn't take revenge (fight back). It is how us living beings survive.
2007-01-22 05:49:33 · update #1
Justice and revenge is but the same thing.
2007-01-22 05:54:51 · update #2
Vengence always feels better but you can't always carry it out. I should write a book on how to carry out revenge without breaking the law - maybe a few social norms etc but not the law. It has to be done ' mentality - wise ' that is the most basic way I can explain. When you inflict grief on one who has done so to you - ( and they did intend to with malicious intent) when you cause them grief then there is peace within you and then you can move on. When you cannot have revenge then you just have to let it go and forgive yourself / love yourself etc. I have had revenge on a number of people and it has given me great pleasure and happiness. As I child I was too small and feeble to defend myself. As a man I was definately capable but the rules of engagement - change - adults do not prey on you or harm you physically usually. So the way to deal with nasty people has to change. There are many ways to hurt those who have hurt you - the key is - not to do it in a way that lets them know that you are the one that caused there pain. Only forgive if you are in danger and plan your revenge after
2007-01-22 05:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forgiveness is NOT about "forgiving and forgetting." It does not change what has happened, nor does it free the offender from the consequences of his or her actions. Forgiveness is letting go of the hold that the person and situation has over you, but it doesn't mean you can't do something about the situation.
Forget revenge - go for justice.
2007-01-22 05:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
always forgive, and NEVER take vengeance
Edit: In response to what you said, I dont think that is true. I used to, but you come to a certain point in your life where you dont take vengance, you just let it go, its not a big deal to let it go. And that is realistic. If you dont forgive you end up in a war somewhere eventually not remembering why you are even there. OF course people get upset, but that doesnt mean you take a vengeance, you learn to forgive.
2007-01-22 05:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never taken revenge on anyone for anything. There's no point. What's to be gained by hurting someone as badly as you've been hurt? After that momentary pleasure wears off all you are left with is a sick feeling that you could sink to their level. It's best to forgive.
***I am being realistic. Those who know me find it uncomfortable. I am not one to deliberately hurt people, I'm a peacekeeper. I've never taken revenge on anyone. That doesn't mean that I'm not capable...I am. It only means that I don't.
2007-01-22 05:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest , I have taken revenge twice in my life :( not that I am proud of it thou.. It does not work and it sure didn't make me feel better.. Revenge as they say is not sweet.. It's actually very bitter..
Forgiveness is harder and can take longer but is well worth it. . Forget nope, nothing in the BIBLE that suggest I have to forget...
2007-01-22 05:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Joann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive and forget. if there's anything I learned from studying psychology, it's that people's behaviour, however wrong or right, is influenced by the situation, genetics, and the environment they were brought up in. there might not even be any free will at all. For instance, why do men commit a hell of a lot more violent crime than women? nature? nurture? either way, it's hard to hold someone responsible for their behaviour.
2007-01-22 05:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by parthenophilast 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you forgive and forget you have learnt nothing. I aim to always forgive (however long it takes), never forget and never take vengeance (it chains you to a never ending cycle of trying to up each others score until it eventually destroys you).
2007-01-22 06:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by kahahius 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive when its only a little thing but fight back when its big and it keeps going on and on.
2007-01-22 05:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by charley h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard call!!! Depends what it is really. You may forgive, you may take revenge but never forget!!!!
2007-01-22 05:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it gets personal.
For instance - when my GF drives my car home after drinking - she is forgiven. When she goes off the deep end and blames ME for HER losing a $100 gift SHE was carrying and then tells me not to "talk to me like that", I get right up in her face and tell her how it is - cuz now she is getting personal.
2007-01-22 05:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋