Im a catholic and Im mexican and my husband is agnostic and he's white. We're already married, but we have been talking about having a religious wedding. He would like a Catholic wedding in Guadalajara, Mexico, where my family is from.
My questions is that If he has no preference over any religion what would be needed in order to do the ceremony? My mom has told me that we both need to be baptized, have our first communion done, a confirmation, and attend meetings at church weeks before getting married. Is this true?
I already have the baptizm and the first communion done, I just need the confirmation. My husband in the other hand doesnt have this, would he need to get it done?
Im so confused about everything it makes me not even want a religious marriage.
2007-01-22 05:40:21 · 10 answers · asked by mayra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You will have to take a pre-marriage course but I think you are both okay as your are.
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics.
Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, they may have to get permission from the bishop.
Talk to your priest or the parish wedding coordinator.
With love in Christ.
2007-01-22 16:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not even two weeks ago me and my fiance had to go down to my family's Catholic Church to fill out all the necessary paperwork and find out what it takes to get married in the church. I am Catholic, but my fiance is not. You will be required to fill out two forms (A & B) Form A is just about each person's history, including what church they attend (if any) and if they were baptized or went through holy communion (weird that they did not ask about conformation). Form B is to be filled out by someone you know verifying your character and asking pretty much the same questions as form A. Next the person to who is NOT catholic will have to fill out another form. Its simple and, basicly, the priest puts their name on it and verifies that they are a good person and acknowledges that they are willing to have children in the marriage. (oh, and catholic church will NOT marry you if you are not open to the idea of either having children or trying to have childen). The female of the couple will be asked to sign a paper saying she will raise her children catholic.
After all that jazz you will be asked to either take the engaged encounter weekend or attend marriage preperation class.
In addition, you may also be asked to ttake a two hour class on natural family planning, as well as take the F.O.C.U.S. test on relationships and how you deal with problem.
That's is it that I can remember from our own meeting two weeks ago.
Good luck!
side note, this may be different for Mexico. I would recommend calling a church downt there and asking.
2007-01-22 14:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by rrhiannon99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to contact the church. They all have different rules even though they are all catholic. I know a catholic and a Methodist and they allowed them to have a catholic wedding in a Methodist church by a Methodist minister. All that was needed was permission from the bishop. Tell the church where you want to be married your situation. Possibly the most you have to do is get your confirmation first. That will be easier than the pre canna classes you will have to go through.
2007-01-22 13:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local Catholic church and make an appointment with the Father and ask what needs to be done in order to have the Catholic ceremony.
Try the link below too
2007-01-22 13:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am catholic, and my general observation of the church is that the american catholic church is much more relaxed than the catholic church in other countries. you may encounter alot more difficulty trying to get married in the church in mexico if your husband isn't catholic than you would if you were trying to get married here. by difficulty i mean your husband will probably have to sit through alot of lectures and agree to things that he doesn't necessarily want to agree to. some people aren't gung-ho about pretending or lying about their beliefs and 'faith goals' just to get married in a church.
my best friend is getting married and was told that her non-catholic fiancee does not have to be baptized and become a formal catholic, as long they sign an agreement that they will raise their children catholic. you might not find this 'easy way out' in a country like mexico, where the church is more strict when it comes to abiding by church law.
good luck!
2007-01-22 14:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by discoballz82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Especially in Mexico the rules of a church wedding are more strict He must convert etc... Just wondering why are you bothering with a church wedding any way? If he isn't serious about God?Ps. My brother in-law got married in Mexico they went through the pre marital counseling etc . The preist actually told them that any other position other than missionary was a sin . be careful .
2007-01-22 13:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage by church is a sacrament. Its really important for you to understand that marriage by church is more then just i dos. It means that you and your husband are promising to each other in front of God that you will love and charish each other forever. The catholic church believes that marriage is sacred and shouldnt be made more than once. Qoute from americancatholic.com Sacramental marriage is not a one-time magic shot to see couples through life. Rather it is a lifelong blessing available to those couples who pledge themselves to fidelity, growth and service. As they continually reaffirm their "yes" to each other, they acknowledge, draw upon and witness to the power and presence of Christ in their lives. to answer your last question yes you both have to have your baptism,communion,and conformation which are also sacraments.Sacraments are rituals that are highly symbolic. That's another reason why it's not easy to specify exactly what each or all of the sacraments mean. Unlike traffic signs or signs in a store, symbols can mean more than one thing at the same time: They can mean different things to different people (think of a cross, a six-pointed star or a crescent), and they can have different levels of meaning. For example, think of the many levels of meaning—personal, family, civil, religious—connected with a wedding. Ceremonies that are rich in symbolism can mean many things at once. also from americancatholic.com
2007-01-22 18:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Outspoken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was catholic and I was lutheran....I had to take classes for six months to be married in the catholic church, prove baptism and confirmation. PreCana is a weekend retreat required before marriage.
2007-01-22 15:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by mups mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the priest..
i am not catholic but my husband is..our wedding was in a catholic church...we just did not have the full ceremony with communion
2007-01-26 10:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by outofmymind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is correct. It is a lot of work, and it will take a while. You didn't put your wedding date, but it may take a year or so. I would reccomend calling a local priest to find out more information.
2007-01-22 14:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋