Adopting a child outside of your race?

Question

Have you ever attempted to adopt a child outside of your own race? Were you encouraged to do it or encouraged to find a child that would "best fit in " your own environment? Did you end up adopting the child of your choice or one they chose for you?

(This is for same country adoptions- such as a white couple adopting a Hispanic Child or African American family adopting a white child)

I just came from a seminar and an adoption agency said that they encouraged families to adopt within their own race- "for the good of the child".

What is your experience and how did you deal with it?

Just wondering because the company who was speaking at the seminar was asked by me if they encouraged children of color to go with families who arent and they said they discouraged it "in the best interest of the child", and i thought that was bologna.

I had told them it shouldnt matter the color of either the child or the parent that determines love- i guess they didnt see it that way.

i think because of some of the "rules" these agencies place, either written or unwritten, are making it harder for white families to adopt, say an African American or Hispanic child, when they have the room, love and space. It is much easier for those families to go overseas to get a child, instead of getting one from here.

My family is very diverse and I love each one of them. One more

Answer 1

thought about adoption but it just did not happen... anyway, I had a cousin, adopted about 35 or so yrs ago, but he was taken away after about 3 wks, he was black and we are white, but they did not know he was black because he was so light complected at first.... it was horrible !!! we loved that little boy and it was hard to say good-bye..... love is love to me, color has nothing to do with it at all...... if you have enough love to go around then color should NOT matter..... but, I do know that at times what is best must happen, so the matter is strictly a matter of the heart I guess....... God bless

Answer 2

our friends adopted a mixed 20 month old and in her little town it's all white. the little girl has won everyone's heart and they all accept her and think the world of her. just because she is mixed or even if she was all black or all white it doesn't matter children need homes they can't help what color they are if you adopt a mixed baby or a black or hispanic baby doesn't matter all that matters is that you can love and provide for the child. It may cause some conflicts but look at it this would you rather explain to a hispanic baby why she has white parents or explain to her why she can't be adopted because no hispanic couples wanted to adopt?

Answer 3

It doesn't matter what I feel or you feel about it. It matters what the adopted person feels. Try to put yourselves in their shoes; how do you think you might feel in that situation I'd suggest reading some blogs from transracial adoptees about their thoughts on the matter and then decide if people's answers saying 'it doesn't matter' ring true. Where I live it's very difficult for a white person to adopt a child of another race; because they believe it's in the best interests of the child to grow up with some kind of mirroring

Answer 4

hi,
i never adopted a child but i am the godmother of one whit child and i am black, i am also the god grandmother of that child's two children. so i think i might b able to help. i don't think that it makes any difference what the color of the child's skin is or yours. i think that it depends on you and the child you want to adopt. if you plan to love the child for who he/she is and you plan to give the child a good life full of love and care then you should pick the child you want. so many people are going over seas to find the little ones and we have those here in America that need us as well. the skin color is not and should not be the factor that helps you to chose your addition to your family. but the love you see in that child's eyes when you and that child make the carnation,

Answer 5

In a perfect world we would all still be different but we would respect each other as "HUMAN BEINGS." We are far from that as a nation. So the first problem with adopting outside of your race becomes "WHY." instead of,"thank god that child will now have a home and people to care for them." "African Americans," as labeled by the establishment, have lost their identity. As an "original" I have been searching for my "true" identity for about 20 years now. It is hidden and will not be revealed "honestly." A "original" adopted outside of their race is more than likely to NEVER find or care to find his/her true identity. Ignorance is not bliss. God bless the people who adopt because of conviction to do something beyond. Cursed are they whom adopt for personal gain...........

Answer 6

I have adopted children of a different race and have had no problem at all.
I do think that a lot of it has to do with your area that you live in. What I am trying to say is that, if you have no othere race in your area, then it might be difficult for the child. But as for me personally. I don't look at them any differently that I do my own children and they don't look at them any differently.
I have many friends who have adopted children outside of their race. And I do have to say the same thing. They have never ran into any problems.
Of course you have to prepare yourself for the future and realize that you could have different ethnics in your life.
I guess the only thing I would have to say is that if you are comfortable with it, then follow your heart.

Answer 7

i haven't done it but had friends who did. the fact is that some societies are still at that ignorance level. and the child is at the brunt of it all. so in wanting to adopt a racially different child you need to know that the child will not be exposed to an environment in which he will be everyone's punch bag and scapegoat- victimisation is a serious issue!!

Answer 8

i think that if you were to adopt a child, bless you, there are so many children in adoption agencies. and race shouldnt matter, love is blind it sees no color. and in this day in age its a pretty common thing.

Answer 9

I think what you want to do is great my parents did it and they hve a lovely 19 year old korean son.

Answer 10

i don't think the raise matters we are all human beings