ok...my last question looked wrong. But the MOTHER of this poor child is a crack addict-for 19 years. Been arrested, in and out of rehab, total loser. We tried for cutody and $5000 later we were told that since the child wants to stay with her, that is what they are going with.
Since that court date, she is back on drugs, has ben arrested and now we believe that she is using now.
The child basically is at the grandparents all the time who we are not on good terms with since we took them to court. The grandmother is a "proud" alcoholic-she doesn't hide it. In fact, they just got a dog and named it "Stoli".
This crack head has tried to harass me by calling CPS on me saying that I drink wine and an drunk around the kid. (Me and my husband sometimes have a glass of wine with dinner and the kid is the type to go to the mother with exaggerated info) CPS immeadiately saw that it was just harassment and dismissed it. That's just the beginning. Nightmare! Can anyone relate?
2007-01-22 05:35:13 · 4 answers · asked by the agent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get proof of the drug habits- like the arrests, dui, pics of parties, etc.
if the kid wants to stay, then give up!!! he is old enough to know better and to want a better life for himself!!!
2007-01-22 05:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing I think you can do is be above reproach. Stop the wine with dinner. Don't do anything that someone can turn around on you. The next thing is document, document, document. Get a notebook and start writing down everything to help you case if this woman finds herself in a situation where SOMEONE has to get custody. Don't let the daughter know about this notebook. Also, never say anything bad or show any disapproval of the mom or her parents. However, if you have any information her probation officer or the D.A should know, I wouldn't hesitate to pass it along to them. I know this is a very hard time for you all. This too shall pass. Later in life, this girl will realize how her mom is behaving. Try to be a soft place to fall where she won't have to hear "I told you so". Good luck!
2007-01-22 13:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states at a particular age of teenage-hood the child gets to choose who they want to live with. If this kid wants to live with you, check the laws in your state on child's choice. Also, get the court to assign a guardian at lit-um and that person will have a big a say on what happens to that kid. Guardian at lit-um is a third party person who is not personally involved and who only has the best interest of the kid.
I was raised with the druggies and if the kid has some real values given (Starting Now) they will be OK,. That is when I was saved,
Tracylyn S
2007-01-22 14:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a finanical hardship, but you should stay on the courts about the suitablility of the mother, especially if she has a record, what judge is going to allow a kid to chose to stay with a parent who has a drug abuse problem and a record to go with it? That's ridiculous, it's endagering to the child's wellbeing. Someone needs to be protecting this kid.
2007-01-22 13:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋