I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, I'm 25 and she feels as though I act like I don't love her anymore and is constantly picking at what I do. I am in love with her and feel like I do make an effort to show her extra love but she is constantly saying she doesn't get the same vibe as she used to. We even have an appointment to see a therapist in two weeks....any suggestions as how to fix it?
2007-01-22 05:29:10 · 15 answers · asked by partypooper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in this situation before. For me, it resulted from the fact that I don't think I was able to verbalize for him what I really needed from him. If you can get her to be very specific about 5 things that she really needs, you can work on these things. It may be that they things you are doing - those things that you are trying to do to make things better - aren't really hitting home for her. So, the more specific the better. You should also communicate things that you need, so it can be a 2 way street and one person isn't singled out.
Good luck.
2007-01-22 05:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring back the adventure that you had when you two were just starting out. Play dates, dinner or whatever. Keep it fresh and try to find something new about each other that you didn't already know. Prove her wrong and show her how much you do love her. If that don't pan out and you feel that you have gone beyond the call of duty with it than maybe she is looking somewhere else. Good luck in making it work.
2007-01-22 13:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Skinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've given her no reason to feel that way....then you both have grown apart......something must have changed somewhere along the line. Perhaps you don't want the same things she does anymore......or you both always do the same thing over and over every night or weekend and she's lost interest. Sounds like she needs to see some "sparks" again...perhaps think back to when you first started dating and the fun! things you did together* (ice skating or ? out dancing .........) Try to rekindle that Love Connection again......and Yes counselling is good to get to the root of why she feels YOU don't love her anymore*~ but between now and your appt in 2 weeks.....try to think of little things that will put that Spark back into her heart*~ (write lil love notes...plan a special romantic evening just the two of you somewhere...) GOODLUCK*
2007-01-22 13:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely,
First off no matter how independant a woman is, she likes to be loved and shown love. You need to understand that most woman only want the little things. Flowers for no reason, a book that you just happen to know is by her favorite author, a candle light dinner made by you of her favorite meal or served with her favorite wine.......stupid things to guys like a simple list of 25 things you hope never change about her, her favorite flowers, movies, cd's whatever just let her know that you know her and that you love these things about her OR that you are willing to do things that she likes even if she knows you hate them. Just open her door and let her know that she is your number one and that you feel blessed and lucky to have her! Good luck you seem like a good guy and if you are going to counseling you must want it to work! I hope for you it does!
2007-01-22 13:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by mouthygirl20012001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O, so I'm not the only one...I'm going through the exact same thing you are going, we have even been going out for almost 2 years, how coincidental! I'll be watching this question then.
2007-01-22 13:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by michael d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel that my boyfriend dont love me eathier so i can honestly say that ikno how she feels mens yall just dont really show us that yall do love us and once we feel like that u gonna have to work hard and getting her to believe that u ndo love her do lil things lil things count wats going on y do she feel this way have u ever told her u didnt love her in an argument r u not paying attention to her but to everybody else try and work it out
2007-01-22 13:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by lakita s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she means is that you're not paying her constant comments and attention all the time. They feel left out (and very insecurely) if they're not the only thing on their minds. If this is getting on your nerves now, just wait till you get married. See you in divorce court real soon!
2007-01-22 13:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to start doing the things that you did when you guys frist met and give her more attention, women love attention, when you see her just hold her and tell her you love her ok sweets
2007-01-22 13:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a good indication of how she's really feeling, not you. Go see the therapist.
2007-01-22 13:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by sixmillionways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing somthing on the spurr of the moment or surprise her by doing something that you wouldnt normally be doing...maybe base it on something that she always wanted to do...ie skydiving, etc...
2007-01-22 13:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by jsygrovehpi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋