My husband has a 3 year old daughter, we have been together even before she was born, her mother and father were never together, the first 2 years of her life we only were allowed to see her whenever her mother felt like it, which was alot sometimes, and then it dwindelled down to never, we didnt get to see her for about 8 months and his daughter didnt even remember us...anyways we finally got a lawyer and for the past year we have got her everyother weekend and every tuesday plus holidays and things like that...but it took her forever to get warmed up to her father...she still isnt as close to him as she is to me and my husband gets jelous which i understand I want her to be closer to him than me, but how? sometimes i am with her more than he is bc he has to work but theres no way around that we all like to spend family time together and we go to the zoo and chucky cheese and things like that but we want him and her to have a closer relationship what should we do,?!?
2007-01-22 05:28:29 · 11 answers · asked by sally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kids at this young of an age are generally drawn more to the female, so this is normal, especially since you are the one she spends more time with. While it is a good idea to spend time together as a family, he should make plans with just her. Maybe call it a date or something special like that. Men generally are not very good at the act of actively building a relationship. There are tons of things they can do. The park, or an indoor playplace, roller skating is a great idea since she is so young they are kind of forced to be close and help eachother. Is he into feeling silly? Three year olds love being silly. This is also a great time to read chapter books before bed, just a chapter a night, something that only him and her do together.
If this persists too long or really starts to cause a major problem in the family maybe you could look into family therapy.
2007-01-22 05:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should do what we call "Daddy Daughter Day". Once a month just the father and daughter go for an outing together. He can plan to do anything she loves to do (zoo, park, play games, duckpin bowling, movies and lunch or dinner at her favorite restaurant). She'll see how much fun her daddy is and that she can trust him to totally take care of her. The first couple of "dates" he should plan it without her input, after that he can ask her what she'd like to do. She'll bond with him and the whole family will be happy. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 06:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the weekends, when dad doesn't have to work, make yourself scarce. Let dad and daughter have some alone time to do an activity together. I'm not saying every weekend that you have the child that you disappear....just for a few hours to let them create special moments to bond. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-22 06:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to understand why she has not fully accepted him, maybe the mother has been saying discouraging things to her. maybe she is more open to female companionship because that is what she has been exposed to.
she will come around in time, believe me.
my fiance has a 5 yr old. we started seeing each other when she was 3. she is very close to me because although her mother initially tied to prevent us from seeing her (fighting legally for full custody and losing), children only understand the way they are treated. If they feel love they return it.
just be patient, she will come around.
2007-01-22 05:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will come in time. He has to be patient, some kids warm up easier to women than to men, especially since the child was around the mother more. Tell him to relax, and be the best Dad he can be, and she will love him and idle him in time. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 05:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this early in life, women are actually more important to young kids....the mommy bond is a very important one. Tell him to be patient and playful and loving and she will come around in time. Also, maybe seek professional help and guidance so that he doesn't let his jealousy affect your relationship. He's got to get involved, feed her, change her, help with bathtime, play with her, read to her. You, GO SOMEWHERE, to the grocery store or something....
2007-01-22 05:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independant daddy daughter time is needed. Find things that she and him can do together that are fun for her. Pony rides and girl things can be hard for daddies, but if he takes one on one time the love will grow.
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2007-01-22 06:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to talk to a professional about it but she is still young and she may associate with you more because you are a female. Just tell him to spend more time with her and do more things and I am sure sooner or later she will come around
2007-01-22 05:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by mZgRoW*N*sExY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him do a special activity with her, that only he does and not you, like my daughter plays with my dh very physically, and I am the more intellectual one, if there is something she enjoys, try only him doing with her.
2007-01-22 05:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by lana_zug_zug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE ON TRACK GO AHEAD. GET HER TO THE COMPUTER WHENEVER YOU ARE QUESTIONING OR ANSWERING YAHOO ANSWER.
2007-01-22 05:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kwadwo B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋