My son is 10, and STILL wets the bed, 2-3 sometimes 4 times a week. WE have tried everything!!! PLEASE HELP?

Answer 1

Have him checked by a Doctor for a small bladder. I had a 12 yr old step-son that wet the bed at least 3 times a week. He absolutely could not have anything to drink after about 6pm -- his bladder simply could not hold it long enough and did not wake him up. There are bladder control medicines available now, check them out with your doctor.

Answer 2

I know it's hard for everyone involved, but believe me, it's harder on your son than anyone else. I know because i did the same thing almost EVERY night until I was 12! I'm sure he feels terrible about it and would do anything to make himself stop if he could. As others have pointed out, his bladder most likely just hasn't developed enough yet to hold everything in during the night on a consistent basis. He will most likely outgrow it with time, but adding extra stress or pressure to him (beyond what he already feels on his own!) will likely only make the situation worse.

The idea of making him wash his own sheets in the morning is not terrible (my parents had me do this, actually) -- not as a punishment, but just as a way of helping him to take ownership of his problem and to reduce the amount of stress it places on you having to do all the extra laundry. He may even be grateful he can take care of it on his own so that no one else has to see or find out about it when it happens!

Otherwise, at your son's age the most effective remedies are probably wetness alarms and bladder exercises, especially if done in conjunction with each other. Don't know if those are part of the "everything" you've tried, but even if you have and it's been a couple of years, it couldn't hurt to try again -- it's possible that his bladder just wasn't mature enough a couple of years ago to respond to the treatment, but perhaps it is now. To learn more about the bladder exercises (I think they were really helpful for me when I was 11-12!), click on http://www.spont.com and follow the "sleepwetting" links.

Good luck, I hope your son is able to outgrow this soon!

Answer 3

Bed wetting is much worse among boys than girls because boys lack a hormone in their body some do. That was the case with my husband who was fourteen when he stopped wetting the bed. You can take your son to a doctor to get pills that will help, but for the most part, he is just going to have to grow out of it. I know this is difficult for you, but let me speak as a former bed wetter on behalf of your son.

Bedwetting is not a choice, he does not like wetting the bed anymore than you want him to wet the bed. He knows that you want the best for him, but he is still oblivious to understand what is going on with him.

He would like for any one of the drugs are treatments that you have tried to work, because this is embarrassing and it really messes with his social life, he can't have friends over and he has a hard time staying the night anywhere, because the parent has to know what is going on.

Now remember I am speaking only from his point of view, you are not a bad parent you are just trying to help, but because a child pretty much has to grow out of it, you are not going to be able to do what you would like to help him. There are option that will help but they do not solve the problem completely.

Be there for him, let him know that you care.

Making him wash his sheets as punishment is not good, it makes him feel horrible.

You might try waking him up a couple times in the night as well to go to the rest room. My Aunt did that for me when I was older, and now I wake up on my on.

Answer 4

Have you taken him to the doctor? Sometimes a small bladder is to blame, sometimes a urinary tract infection. He may just be a heavy sleeper, in that case there are alarms that can be put on the bed that go off if they sense a hint of wetness. There are also medications he can try if you choose to go that route. If none of these work then you will just have to go with Goodnites or something like that for a while...Good luck.

Answer 5

I have a 9 year old daughter that does wet the bed often. She was checked out by a doctor and he did tests and said nothing wrong with her. Some kids just do it and out grow it. I would check with the doctor and they have alarm systems and all kinds of things out there. We just wash the bedding and have a protective sheet on the bed.

Answer 6

Be patient. Kids will grow out of it. He is certainly very embarrassed about the situation, and teasing will not help his mental state. Get him involved in sports. Football, hockey, or baseball. It will give his mind something else to think about when he sleeps. Little boys dream, that's what little boys do. If he's involved in sports, he'll want to win in sport. And winning just doesn't happen suddenly on the field when the whistle blows and the crowds roar. Winning is something that builds physically and mentally every day that you train, and every night that you dream.

Answer 7

His body has grown faster than his bladder. I assume you have checked him out plenty with doctors. Just get him some Good Nites and wait for him to grow out of it. Be patient and don't make a huge deal about it anymore. Everyone has a tic of some kind. He at least has a chance to outgrow his.

Answer 8

is this something new?? if so, what has changed that could contributed to it? stress, increased fluid intake, UTI, etc.

some kids bladder is small, some don't produce enough ADH & their kidneys don't slow down while they sleep, like most people's do, some just are such deep sleepers that they don't realize what is happening, most will outgrow it by 10-12, some really do need medication to increase ADH at night.

check w/your Dr. there are medications available that may help.

see here for more info:
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/uichildren/index.htm#whattreats

Answer 9

I have the same problems with my nine yr old, I have heard that sometimes kids bodies grow faster than their bladder, I wish I knew what to do I guess I'm stuck buying night time diapers for a while.

Answer 10

no drink before bed......
pee before bed....
I think his bladder just hasn't developed yet, I know we think he' s10 years old, but really he's still just a little boy.
make a chart with stars, if he doesn't wet the bed that day he will get a star. 10 stars he gets some toy or what ever he likes.
maybe if he's thinking about it , it just might happen less.
Good luck!