Seeing this girl for 2 months just hooking up, nothing serious. Yesterday she asked me out to a club. It was me, my friend, her and her friend. In the club she runs into 5 guys she knows who were all trying to talk to her. So she leaves our little group 5 times and 1 time disappeared with this dude for an hour. I was trying to play it cool since we are not offically together but I do really like her. Then my guy friend said that she should hang out with the people that she came with, upon which she got pissed saying I knew all these people from college w/e.
I drove her and her friend back to her place cuz she asked me to sober up. I wanted to talk to her or maybe "hook up" again but she ran off saying she was tired so I sleep on the couch. I awoke to her and her friend saying how I wanted to hook up so she made an excuse to sleep. So I got up and she was saying sorry that she ran off to bed etc. I was like w/e and left. I'm thinking to give up pursuing her. Should I?
2007-01-22 05:03:02 · 7 answers · asked by tarzan428 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally think there are things worth putting up with, talking out, and working through....WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP that is otherwise working with someone you really like.
You and this girl are NOT in that relationship yet, and she is either a) not that into you as an exclusive boyfriend b) actually trying to telegraph her lack of interest by not making you a priority or c) being really disrespectful as you were her "date" for the evening, regardless of whether you were an exclusive couple yet or not.
The part I don't necessarily think is all that much of a problem was her telling her friend that she made an excuse to sleep to avoid sleeping with you. I think this is the kind of immature response to something even couples who are totally into each other face...when one partner just isn't into it at the moment. Rather than lie, she should have just said that she was tired or didn't want to fool around...either she felt she couldn't (were you pushing kind of hard?) or she didn't feel comfortable enough with you from a relationship standpoint to feel honest (which begs the question whether you needed to sleep with her at all...sounds like you like her, and that will only make you like her more...it's not just casual anymore).
Either way, too much relationship drama for a relationship that isn't even a real relationship anymore. Take what you've learned from this (once you've gotten over the dissapointment, and it's totally cool to be dissapointed when someone you like doesn't like you as much...cause that sucks), and find someone who'll focus on you and only you from a romantic standpoint...and who feels comfortable enough to talk with you when there's an issue rather than making up stupid excuses.
2007-01-22 05:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by B B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, give it up, she's definitely disrespecting you, in more ways than one.
2007-01-22 13:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that she is not interested in you then leave it alone!
2007-01-22 13:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not interested and is a complete ditz. dont bother with her
2007-01-22 13:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, tell her what you feel and just relax. if she ain't worth it, she ain't worth it.
2007-01-22 13:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by reby2791 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel
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2007-01-22 13:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, she doesn't want you
2007-01-22 13:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋