i am her first guy,and she tells me she hates using the condom cos it turns her off,but i am no longer down wit going witout,cos we had once broken up wen she started dating som other guy.she came back and made we made up again.though she told me she used a condom wit this guy.but i cant be entirely too sure anymore.so now she thinks am using the condom cos i dont trust her.wat do i do?
2007-01-22 05:01:47 · 33 answers · asked by Don.P de'Marco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would STICK WITH USING THE CONDOM not only can you not trust her when you already know she hates them so why would she use it with another guy...........Is she trying to get Pregnant or does she have a death wish by not wanting to use a condom*
I think you need to find yourself another g/friend that respects herself enough and to respect you....for this not to even be an issue* Leave her and ALWAYS USE A CONDOM*~
2007-01-22 05:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First most women don't like condoms because they don't like the feel, they would rather feel the natural thing. You say you were broken up and she was with another man. Then use that to get your point across, not that you don't trust her but the guy she was with may not have been clean. Talk about getting yourselves tested, while waiting for the results you can either abstain or use condoms with plenty of lube and foreplay. If you think she is the one for you then talk things through, letting her know that you want to have a open honest relationship with her.
2007-01-22 05:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by whippitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One idea is for the both of you to go a clinic and get a STD testing. and you need to let her know her previous boyfriend may not have been so honest or he may have had a STD and not have known and just to be on the safe side she should get tested and you can get tested along with her. With STDS symptoms dont have to show up right away or have to be apparent and may show up 2 or 5 years from now, depending on what it is. Have you heard of HPV? you can get that even when using a condom because it's possible through skin contact, better be safe than sorry, don't risk your life for another girl. I know it's hard and you dont want to upset her and I hope you will take the advice
2007-01-22 05:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by justwondering 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Obviously you are wondering if she had gone with this guy without any condom and if it turns her off then may be she did which leads you to think that maybe she caught something from him.Well there's nothing wrong with you feeling insecure about her current status being that she went with someone else and you are just not sure if you believe her.
Well i suggest that you ask her if she would like both of you to get yourselves checked out at the doctor just to make sure none of you have any STD. Tell her you too will do the test, she'll feel bad if you suggest that she do it alone.
If all goes well then you are good to go, If y'all are not ready for kids then i suggest that she uses a birth control method.
Good luck...
2007-01-22 05:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you comfortable. Not what makes her comfortable. It is your property cover it if you want to. And if she has only been with you and this other guy and she has used a condom all the time how does she know she likes it more without it? Questions question i would be asking her! That 4 sure. And go get tested anyway better now than later.
2007-01-22 05:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Using condoms does suck, but it's the responsible thing to do, even if she's on some other type of birth control, it's not always enough. If you two haven't tried a water based lubricant with the condoms, try that. Maybe she'll change her mind. Also, if she just doesn't want to be safe, then I suggest not doing it with her.
2007-01-22 05:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a condom!!!! In this time we have a lot of STD's out there. Did you know if you have a cold sore and go down on her she can get herpes? It's true! Be careful! It's far to risky and never trust a young and immature girl. You have your whole future ahead of you. Be Smart!!!
2007-01-22 05:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your her first how does she know it feels with it or not? Plus if you say she was seeing other guys co'mon you know you aint dat dumb not to use a condom. Even if she hates it, is either a condom or an STD! Plus tell her the truth you dont trust her and its da truth, you dont know if she is telling you the truth... or take her to the doctor so yall both can check yall self.... and then if yall aint got nothin well dont use a condom..........
2007-01-22 05:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by SW_GURL19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit using the condom and catch a disease. That sounds smart. Quit using the condom and watch her get pregnant. That sounds like fun. Wait until you are married to quit using condoms.
2007-01-22 05:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by holeeycow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋