GUYS Only: is it normal for a straight man to make comment about another mans body..?

Question

on friday when my guy and i were watching tv. a man with a nice body was on and my guy was like DAMN..but then he heard the way he said it..and tried to cover himself by saying "i know thats what the ladies are probably saying"...this has happened on a few occasions..when ever my guys sees a man with a nice body..hes like DAMN..and then tries to cover it up so i wouldnt think that he is gay..or he would say something like to cover himself.."i am not saying that in a homo type of way"...is this normal..should i be concerned..maybe he likes men but never acted out...I know that i make comments towards women..if a woman has a nice a s s..i say damn...**** she looks good..so would that make me bi...crazy right...help

I am thinking that maybe he gets turned on by the men bodies..

my guy is 30 and i am 29

i have asked him if he liked men..or if he was gay he told me no...

Answer 1

Sorry, I'm a female, but I 'know' the answer to this through life experience. Your guy is totally 'normal' and is looking at 'how the other guys look' to see how he looks in comparison. And that 'DAMN' means that he's feeling 'less a man' in the 'good, heterosexual ways' but is still 'admiring the guy' for his good body. And you are not 'bi' because you comment on women's bodies, either. BE GLAD your guy can be so 'open' because many can't ... and they are the ones you need to 'worry about' more than you need to worry about your 'guy.'

Answer 2

You don't say how old you and your guy are, which might matter.
You said he has said DAMN on more than one occasion, correct? If he has then I think then you may need to be concerned. A lot of women comment on another women's features, without having any urge to engage another female.
Men on the other hand tend not to comment on another mans feature as a normal part of our lives. Even if a man is good looking with a great body, most men when questioned will make some off handed comment like (if you like that kind of thing, or say that the guy is probably gay). Men don't normally go around saying DAMN when they see a guys A**, but will most likely say DAMN when they see a nice shaped female butt. You might want to consider letting this one go, or maybe get into threesomes with another man and see how that goes.

Answer 3

Here is an honest answer from a completely straight man that is obsessed with women. There is nothing wrong for another man to give props to another guys physique. However, the reaction of your boyfriend gives you every right to be skeptical. An appropriate response form him would have gone sorta like this.

"Man that guy has some ripped abs. I need to get mine to that level one day".

Your man's (and I use that term loosely btw) response was a "damn" that a woman gives if she would have seen the same guy. The fact that it is not an isolated incident gives you every right to be concerned. This down low junk ain't no joke. Women are beautiful creatures with an amazing sense of intuition. Make sure that you use yours.

Answer 4

It depends on the comment, the other guy and how "into" the comment your man got. I don't think this is normal because I don't do it. So I'd have to say I think he's gay and/or interested in the guys bodies and possibly more. My daughter asked me this same question about her boyfriend (who's Turkish). I think they have a totally different attitude about the sexes than uptight Americans do.

Answer 5

It totally depends on the guy, and you could make yourself crazy if you're reading too much into little things like this. If he's hiding something, there will be other signs, this is likely NOT one of them. I absolutely notice if a guy is good looking, and with 70% of my girlfriends and both of my sisters would probably say something about it, though not dwell on the subject. Usually, it's when they say to me, "do you think that guy's good looking?" or "Wow, that guy's good looking!" will I respond ("Yeah, he's got a good look," or "Are you smoking crack? He looks like a Norkin troll!").

If I unexpectedly noticed someone with a REALLY nice body (particularly if it was due to their working out--something most guys are either doing, saying they will do, or feeling guilty for not doing) something might unexpectedly fall out of my mouth, sure, but that would not be the status quo. (Actually, I did that during the last James Bond movie, Casino Royale, and was kind of embarassed, too, but not the only one, I might add).

I suspect the "covering up" probably had to do with his immediate realization that you might immediately judge his comment as "gay" -- a lot of guys think things they'd never say out loud, sometimes just not in front of certain friends, sometimes not in front of anyone. It's not like girls are so different than guys that a girl can say "she's so pretty!" and a guy would never notice...it's just that societally most guys trained themselves long ago not to say things like "he's so handsome!" out loud.

Trust me, a straight guy who is comfortable enough with his sexuality to be himself and express his opinions or thoughts without being obsessed with what others might think about them is a pretty rare find...we're all insecure, particularly in America, and worried folks might think we're gay...so IF that's the case, you should be glad you've got a confident guy and let him know you're not going to question his sexuality just because he notices someone's good looking...you'll actually appreciate him more for it for being a 21st century man!

Then again, he could be bi, but that's a stretch based on this alone, and isn't necessarily a problem, again, if he's being faithful to you and is a good boyfriend in all other ways, but he should be able to be honest with you about it...just don't assume.

As a final point, if a guy couldn't tell when another guy is good looking, how come we get so jealous and act like idiots (me included) whenever we see a guy who's better looking than us talking to our girl?

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with his comments. It's one of the many double standards. A woman can walk up to a woman and tell her she looks good and it's normal. If a guy does that to another guy, it's "gay". He probably makes these comments around you because he feels comfortable to express himself.

Answer 7

Not normally but it does happen. I personally can't see it but there are a lot of guys out there that can look at another guy and comment just like when girls comment on other girls.

Answer 8

It really depends on the way he said it and his personallity. The fact that he tries to cover up afterwards makes me think he's got some interest for the other side.

Answer 9

I think the only comment one straight guy can make about another is"wow nice beer gut"

Answer 10

Yes it is normal for someone to want some abs or some pecs just like the ones that he sees on TV. I my self watching people who work out ... comment on them. I am thinking, that i would want to be as strong, or to look as masive as those people