I find it very hard to justify how a faithful and good husband, good father who cater and plan the needs of his family in case he died could possibly say he love his wife when he harbour such thought.
2 of my such best friends said its alright as we are men.
Am I silly for being TOO narrow minded?
2007-01-22 04:39:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my fiance is very faithful to me and doesn't look at other females. i don't understand why some men are incredibly faithful and others are not. i don't think it's silly at all. if you are truly in love with someone why would you want someone else? so you're not the only one who thinks it's not right.
2007-01-22 06:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and the ability to be stimulated visually are perfectly normal things for men. Humans are not NATURALLY monogamous- if we were one of the few truely lifelong monogamous animals, we would not be tempted by others.
It would be weird if you were NOT occcasionally stimulated by others.
Now- sex is not like eating or breathing. We can resist it forever and be perfectly OK. You can resist the thoughts, notice the sexy women and not dwell on them, etc.
However, occasionally thinking of such things is neither a crime nor a sin. It does not change the love and dedication you have for your family. Sure- it CAN become a problem- sex or smut addictions are a real concern- but most guys don't really have anything like that to worry about.
2007-01-22 04:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not going to say you are silly, because maybe it is me who is silly. BUT, I don't think that any person doesn't at some point think of the opposite sex. I don't care how wonderful of a husband or wife you have, all of them look and think at some point! The line is when they stop thinking and ACT on those thoughts! That is where the problem arises! I have no problem with my husnamd looking at another woman and thinking shes cute, the problem I have is if he acts on it and persues her! Otherwise he is just being human, it is human nature to look and think! I can look at another guy and think he's hot, but that doesn't make me less of a wife. The point where I acted on those thoughts is when I am no longer a good wife!
I am assuming I understood you definition of "harboring thoughts" properly. And as I also said, I may be the silly one, but thats how I see it!
2007-01-22 05:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you are not being silly for God's Word says that when a man marries not only does he leave his father and mother and cleave only unto you, but that he leaves others and that also means the thoughts of others. When a man keeps thoughts of sexy women he is usually always comparing you to them and most times he finds that in his fantasy you just don't quite "stack up" so his desires are never fulfilled. That can completely ruin a relationship. He must stop fantasizing about sexy women and just concentrate on the one sexy woman in his life and that's YOU and YOU ALONE!!
2007-01-22 04:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_and_salty_2000 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry yet it is mindless! particularly because maximum adult males are actually not virgins while they get married. So does that propose it particularly is fantastic for the female to cheat? the two must be waiting to settle for the different guy or woman's previous and understand that those previous relationships do no longer propose as much as their's does. it could be superb for the two the guy and female to stay virgins till marriage yet in this decade that's particularly difficult to locate!
2016-12-12 17:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to harbor those thoughts? Are things shaky in your marriage? Is your wife taking care of your needs? If she is, then there is no need to do that. I don't see any benefits in doing this. And if you brought it up to your wife, she would be hurt and her self image would diminish which would in turn lead to her lack of enthusiasm in the bedroom.
Yes, it is silly to think that it is ok to harbor those thoughts. It is obvious that some women are beautiful/sexy, but there is no reason to dwell on that.
2007-01-22 05:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being both silly and insecure.
All people have such thoughts. You do to, you just suppress them so you don't have to admit it to yourself.
These thoughts are part and parcel of what it is to be a normal human being.
You are endangering your marriage, just because you are not secure in the feeling that your husband loves and is faithful to you.
2007-01-22 04:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not just men who harbour thoughts about sexy women. Women harbour thoughts about sexy men as well. Its human nature. I don't think that you can simply turn off your thoughts when you enter a relationship or marriage. What important is that you don't act on those thoughts.
2007-01-22 04:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's ok !!! Dr Sue Johansen says men fantasizing about other woman or woman fantasizing about other men is the healthiest thing for your sex life she says fantasizing gets you in the mood for sex just be glad he'll rather fantasize and be with you than be with someone else.
2007-01-22 04:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men harbor sexy thoughts about sexy women. Any one that says other wise is either lying to you or lying to themselves.
You shouldn't hold it against him unless he acts upon these sexy thoughts. He is only human and like it or not humans are animals. It is only natural.
2007-01-22 04:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by ___ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋