I'm trying to plan my wedding and my budget. What is the rule? Are my fiance' and i responsible, the wedding party or should we split the cost?? If they pay or we split, how do you ask them?? I just don't want to offend anyone. But we also don't have a lot of extra money either.
2007-01-22 04:37:39 · 26 answers · asked by luckygurl12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bridesmaids and groomsmen are supposed to pay for the dresses and tuxes but if you want to pay for some (or most) of the cost, you can. If you know some of your bridesmaids/groomsmen are a little short on cash, you can step in and help out if you and your fiance have the money. Bridesmaids/groomsmen usually know they have to pay for the outfits, but if they are clueless, let them know by giving them a price (this wouldn't be considered rude as, traditionally, they are supposed to pay). Or you could go to each person, individually and confidentially, and ask if they need help paying and help them out without letting the rest of the party know (they could get jealous and/or defensive about having to pay when others didn't).
Good luck with your wedding and your decision!
2007-01-22 04:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Trump, Winfrey or Gates then of course you would pay for it, I would hope. But in reality, your carefully chosen bridal party would pay for their own dresses and tuxes. Every wedding that I have been in, the bride has held a meeting with pictures of the dresses and samples of the material. We take a vote on the material, the picture of the dress and the cost and that is what we go with. Most brides pretty much goes along with the bridesmaids selection, because you must think and know that not every lady has the same figure, so not all dresses and colors will be flattering on a full-size lady as compared to a slender woman. Also, the ladies may decide to wear the dress again for another function. So maybe you will consider full length, tea-length/ankle length and even mini's. The tux rentals are paid for by the groomsmen. The bride and groom does give out accessories, such as earrings, necklace and/or bracelets that are uniform to match the dress. This is a thank you for being in the wedding.
2007-01-22 05:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you. I have been in weddings where the bride or couple have paid for the dress. But, I have also been in weddings where I paid for the dress. If someone is your bridesmaid or groomsman then you shouldn't feel uncomfortable about telling them the situation, and maybe helping the ones who can't afford it. Don't worry about it, it is your day, and I am sure people will try to help. If anything tell them they don't need to get a gift if they could just buy their dress, or rent their tux.
2007-01-22 04:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bridesmaids and groomsmen are to pay for their own outfits, but at my wedding I paid for the material for my stepsister's gown because she was doing us a favor and jumping in to take over as a bridesmaid when somebody backed out on us 3 months before the wedding. We also had a groomsmen back out on us the day before the wedding but my fiance's sister stood up on his side in the tux and looked marvellous!
2007-01-22 04:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sue B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dresses. The same goes for everyone in the wedding party.
2007-01-22 04:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by pinwheelbandit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally the attendants for both sides cover their own costs for the weddings, i.e. bridemaids cover their dresses, shoes, accessories, etc, and groomsmen cover tuxes, shoes, ties, etc. Of course these days, not a whole lot of people do things traditionally, so it's really up to the two of you. Like I said it is tradition that they cover their own costs, so I don't see why they should be offended by your going ahead and letting them know that that is what you guys would like them to do since you are on a tight budget. Just be honest and up front with them ahead of time.
2007-01-22 05:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each bridesmaid pays for their OWN dress, plus shoes, plus alterations of their dresses. They are also expected to give a gift at the bride's bridal shower AND a gift at the wedding.
The men all pay for their OWN tux rental and accessories for their tux. They are also expected to bring a gift to the wedding (or a joint gift with their spouse)
2007-01-22 15:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's usually the bridesmaids and ushers pay for their attire. If that's not the case, then I got screwed since I was in two weddings three weeks apart and had to shell out nearly $500 for the dresses!
2007-01-22 04:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule. Normally, the attendants pay for their own attire. However, if you do want to be generous you can pay for it. My bridesmaids paid for and picked out their own dresses. As my gifts to them, I purchased their shoes, jewelry and each of them had their own personal gift. I did have 2 bmaids that did not have the funds and I paid half for their dresses. Do whatever you feel comfortable with. That's going to make you happy in the end.
2007-01-22 08:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Poopie Pants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From all the experience I have from being in and having my own wedding, each person is responsible for his/her own wardrobe, hair and other expenses. It pretty well goes without saying.
If you're a little shy about it, try to let them have a hand in choosing the dresses so they can have a little control over the price and style. I feel like that softens the blow to the pocketbook. Furthermore, if you're having a less formal wedding, you could let them choose dresses from any dress store-the savings can be phenomenal, but you'd probably want them to stick to a common style and/or color.
Congratulations.
2007-01-22 06:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋